Stop being all stressed out. YOu need to toughen up. Face things head on and don't avoid them. Next time someone says something about you, confront them. Tell them that friendship is unconditional so if they think you are messy that is your problem to focus on not theirs. As for your friend who thinks you told her business, go talk to her. Tell he you did not and that if she is a true friend then she will trust you. Rumors are spread because someone is jealous hun. So clearly you have someone who is very jealous of you. Hold your head up high and don't let them break you down. If you don't then this won't stop.How do i deal with friends spreading rumors and talking behind my back?
What sort of friends where they!
Any way my advice is to tell a teacher or a family member and they will sort your problems out at school or where ever you are! But the first place i would go id to the teacher if it is in school, okay maby you dont want to tell them all your personal things but they will help you the most if it is to do with friends at school!
im going through the same thing BTW im nine.MY x/friend is saying oh im going to beat u up and stuff like that. All beacause of a boy.Anyways what you should do is ignore them.Then try to hear it for yourself.once you know, confront her .ask her why she is spreading rumures about you.
Well, if it were me, no way would I consider these people friends if they are making you feel unhappy, deff them, or change to thier liking, it is entirely up to you. Good luck.
I didn't really bother reading the entire thing but I'd say if they're spreading rumors and backstabbing you they're the wrong kinds of friends anyway
a) Stop being a messy whore
b) Kill them
I think the fact that your boyfriend is being supportive is a GREAT thing. USE HIM for his help. If he wants to know the names, then tell him! Try to talk to your friends..write them a letter telling them that you did not tell their secrets and that you don't want to lose them. Tell them how your feelings are hurt. AND THINK..if your friends are being so mean to you...maybe they arn't that great of friends. Maybe find yourself a new friend.
Next time you go to lunch-if you see a girl sitting alone or with only a few people- walk up and ask if you can eat with them. It won't kill you to try. But my biggest advice is to talk to your boyfriend about it..let him help you. Also, i know it's hard...but talk to your parents too.
Hope things go better for you. And remember that people can be tough..but you WILL get through this.
Remember how bad you feel now..later if you see someone who is being made fun of and picked on..reach out to them and offer to be their friend..because when you were picked on..you felt like crap...and you know how bad they feel.
I'm not certain what you mean when you say you are labeled as a ';messy'; person. Does that mean you dress sloppily or you don't brush your hair or you smell, or what? That would be helpful to know.
For the friend who thinks you have told her personal business to others, you need to get her alone somewhere and talk to her about that and assure her that you have not told anyone about her business. If you haven't, what's probably happened is she told someone else, too, and that person has spread it.
As for how you deal with friends spreading rumors and talking behind your back, well you can't take on that many people, so the best advice I have for you on that is to simply ignore them and try to portray yourself as a person who would not do those things. Rumors are extremely difficult to stop and if you try to stop them the end result may be even worse.
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