How to deal with friends who are always tense ?

and their constant complaining about their spouses ,inlaws or children ,job etc makes you equally tense and frustrated.How to deal with friends who are always tense ?
listen to them, but give them insight. when someone complains about others, its most likely because they're unhappy with themselves, not the people they're complaining about. they shouldn't be too sympathized with, or ignored. They need a friend that doesn't get annoyed, but helps them understand why they're complaining. they someone to help them understand why their spouse, or kids, etc. annoys them, and help them find ways to change it. they'll shut up when someone challenges their reasons.How to deal with friends who are always tense ?
ignore them or simply tell them shut upp
It is better to keep distance from such (Mental Sick) persons. Otherwise you will fall pray to such type of person yourself.
Some people are happy being unhappy. If it is really bothering you just stay away until your in the mood to listen to them.
WITH LOVE AND CARE AND THINK AND PLACE UR SELF TO THEIR LEVEL
Just ignore them or act like your not interested when they tell you or else just say ';Shut the hell up would ya im sick off your complaining';
why dont you just listen to them......just be present at that moment..without judging anything they say sometimes, all we want is to be heard, havent you felt that way ever?.....at the end of the day they are your friends......
i do not know sorry
i myself had gone through this phase.


and my people started calling me ';pareshaan soldier';.


then i realised what i m doing


and changed my patterns


they still call me ';pareshaan soldier'; but in a light manner.


i like it now
The best way is to sit near them and shake your head saying ';yes..... yes.... oh..... is it?..... ok .... ok.... ya... ya....ya'; and give some comments about their talk and they will automatically stop and switch over the topic. At last, say '; you are good dear'; and say bye and come.
Its very simple. When they finish saying it just give them examples of other people who have more problems than her/him. Don't make her understand anything just mention about others and I am sure she will realise it soon than Life is not so bad. May be it can take some time but wasting some time for a friend is better than losing her/him.
ONE WILL DEFINATELY SICK WITH ALL THIS IF FACE THE SAME ON REGURAL BASIS AND U MAY START AVOIDING. IT IS ALWAYS GUD IF U COME ACROSS WITHTHE PERSON BEOFRE HE/SHE START ANY THING U SHOULD START TELLING U R PROBLEM AND ASKED THE SOLUTION OR ASK SOME MONEY AS A LOAN . AND GO TO HIS /HER HOME ON REGURAL BASIS TO ASK THE MONEY OR SOLUTION OF U R PROBLEM. U WILL FEEL THE DIFFERENCE.





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first time tell his or him mistake with alone... take care carefully...
teach them so much that they get pareshan and then they wont complain!!!!
everyone has their own share of problem they r sharing their grievience with u coz they considerz u close so be patience n easy while dealing with them
the frnds who r alwaly tense ....... actually they have problems eithr at home or in studies ........always b with them ask their problems.........always try 2 make them happy .......... so that their attention can b diverted ..... and their tenseness should b decreased...............and by shearing problems 2 someone trustable is the most papular way 2 decrease our tenseness..........
You always say to your self and to them ' the sun always shining every morning '
No matter how much we try to insulate ourself from tense situations there is no way we can just shrug friends misery off UNLESS they are not friends ! Only way to keep going is to keep a Cheerful attitude , It rubs off on others just as the misery rubs onto us ! The trick is to not take this tension as real !