Wednesday, August 18, 2010

How do you deal with a friends death?

I've known her since we were babies. We are now 25. It was a self inflicted gunshot to the head, but they are suspecting it was an accident. Either way, its hard to digest and I feel like I'm in a constant fog. Is there anything I can do to deal with this pain, other than drug myself into oblivion?How do you deal with a friends death?
Keep yourself active and avoid drugs. Focus on the good things you remember about that person and let her live on in your memory. I don't think she'd want to see you suffer long.





If the situation was reversed and you were the one to have departed, I don't think you'd want her to be mourning you to the point of resorting to using drugs and be grieving to the point where it's bad for your health.





Try not to dwell too much on it. Maybe think of it as if she's still here but just away on vacation or where you'll see her later and it will be just like old times when you two finally get together again.How do you deal with a friends death?
I noe it is hard. But you have to live with it because she's gone now. I noe you miss her but jus think of all the good times. She's your guided Angel.
The last thing you want to do is drown yourself in drugs, that will only delay your pain for a short time, I had a friend that died, I got over it by reading the Bible and praying and seeking council from my church friends. Trust me, Im a goth, not a perfect church mouse, but beleiving in God still helped alot, God has a plan in it, wether it be in a hundred years, or now, we can't tell, only He knows for sure. Heck, His plan might be so that you find Him, Just open a Bible and start reading, you will find comfort.
Give yourself time to heal. Rushing your feelings/fears will not help. This was a good friend and you will grieve in different ways then others. Take your time to be sad. Sorry about your friend.
i would first like to say im sorry that this happened to you. but sometimes you cant get over it. you've known each other for years and shared memories. the best thing you can do is look back and think of the good times. and please, dont drug yourself because that will only make things worse for you
Focus on The Good things that yall had ...... possibly go do something to honor her as in give to a charity in her name


to help get over the grief ....sit down and write her a letter put all of your thought into words ..... even the anger of IF she did take her life .. and once your done ...... put it in an envelope and throw it in the river along with that anger.
don't be mean to yourself. It must hurt a great deal try not to dwell try to love life and remeber the good times you two had. Now have some good times of your own. Don't be down be as upbeat as you can. I'm so sorry for your loss.

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