What is this friends deal?!?

I have a friend who is 3 years older than me and a guy. Im 13 so I get why it can be wierd when we hang out. But its strange cause when we have concerts and stuff and we are backstage, he spends more time with other people than me. I get that friends need to alternate, but its kind of annoying when all I want to do is talk to my friend and I cant even approach him without feeling embarassed!





The other night he kept hinting he wanted to go to the movies and noone would go with him so I said I would. We went and it was really fun, and we always have fun on the bus and stuff, but conversations really get strange sometimes.





We talk on msn mostly and we rarely get to see eachother out of school and bus (Cause he goes to the boys school and I go to the girls) and he only lives up the street. When we do see eachother, it takes a while for the conversation to kind of 'warm up' because it can be rather awkward and quiet until we begin to have fun.





When we fight, he always tells me I'm a really great friend and he doesnt want to stop talking to me and stuff, but I feel like I am the only one putting effort into the friendship!





I really want to spend more time with him and become even closer to him, but I dont know how to do that. I call him one of my best friends but I feel like I have a low status on his social ladder and it makes me kind of sad and annoyed. I probably do, but me thinking so highly of him gets annoying when he doesnt feel the same way!!





I want to be one of the people he calls when times are tough and hangs out with on the weekends! He used to tell me everything like his crushes and stuff, but the other day whe I said,


';Met any girls lately?'; He got really pissy and said,


';Sorry, I dont want to talk about that.';





What doesnt help is that I like him ad he knows that. Is that what is making it awkward? Usually our fights are me yelling at him and saying we shouldnt be friends cause i dont feel appreciated and its hard liking him and always listening to him rambling about his crushes and stuff (Though I actually do most of the rambling) and he never takes my feelings into consideration.





I always seem to be the first to talk to him and the first to say stuff. He never makes an effort! I'm basically asking 'Why', because I am really confused and upset! I dont want to lose him as a friend! I value that too much! I just want to be more his friend than his human diary, you know??





I want to hang with him on weekends and talk to him on the phone and have him excited when I walk through the door! Please guys, help me understand why he is acting this way and what I can do to be one of his closer friends!What is this friends deal?!?
It's awkward to talk in person since you've been talking to him through the internet. Same thing happened to me aftr I found one of my friends from elementary school. She tells me mostly everything and so do I, but it's weird in person. If you want to get over this, talk to him in person more often. If you can't, ask him for his number and call him up. Good luck.What is this friends deal?!?
he probably got let down by a girl recently and doenst want to talk about girls right now.... and hang out with kids more your age.
tl;dr
I think he's upset that you and your mom aren't willing to have a threeway with him any more
He is just an immature boy and if you guys' friendship fades away he'll REGRET IT BADLY! just dont worry and be yourself
O.K I would understand if you were 25 or maybe wanting to marry this guy, YOUR 13! IT'S ONLY ONE DUDE! I guess girls are now getting younger and younger at an age where they think there 30. What do you guys fight about? About what? if hes getting chicken fingers and fries for dinner? Geez. Live your life and be a 13 year old