Alright, my best friend, Clara, is being a COMPLETE hypocrite. I am now in 8th grade. Let's go to a time line:
5th Grade: I got a cell phone. Clara told me they were stupid.
Now: We both have cell phones. She's all popular: texting, calling people 24/7. I tell her I don't LOVE texting. She calls me weird.
6th Grade: I want an iPod. Clara says they're stupid and useless.
Now: Clara always has her iPod in her purse.
7th Grade %26amp; 8th Grade: Clara says purses are stupid. I agree.
Now: Clara carries around a purse. She says her sister paid her to do it.
8th Grade: Clara says nailpolish is stupid. I paint my nails alot.
Now: Clara paints her nails every week. She says its stupid.
And this is a REALLY FUNNY STORY! *oozing with sarcasm*
Clara started reading Twilight. She said its a great book and she was like in ';love'; with Edward Cullen. After a while, the books start getting popular and they become movies. ';It's stupid and lame,'; she says. ';I only read the 1st and 2nd book. My sister paid me to. It's SOOOO stupid you'd never like it.';
But a few weeks ago, she texted my other friend, Lily, and confessed that she read all the books on her own and they were excellent. Lily told me about it and I confronted Clara. She denied it and we got in a big fight. Clara told Lily she would never tell her anything ever again because of that. Now, she and my other friend, Tara, just taunt and tease Lily for reading Twilight. I detest them both.
Just to annoy Clara, I started reading Twilight. I did not like it one bit. But I pretended I LOVED it, just to get Clara to say she loved it.
I can't help but think the only friend I have is Lily, because she was the one who stayed loyal to me when Clara became ';shadow clara';, as we like to call her hypocrite-ness.
What should I do with Clara? Stop being friends? But we've been friends since 1st grade! What should I do??How should I deal with friends that are hypocrites?
Simply stop spending them with them and no longer take anything they say seriously. That will send a message to these hypocritical friends that you find them annoying.How should I deal with friends that are hypocrites?
Clara and Tara %26lt;=== lol sound horrible for teasing somone who likes twilight. (in my school ppl wd be teasing them) to be honest though they aren't worth it leave em :)
Your making a huge about this. Sorry, but really. People change.
But, when you got a cell phone and then she said she hates them yet gets a cell phone later. She was probably just jealous you had one and said she hates them to you because she thought you were bragging about it. She was just mad that you got one before she did.
If this is truly bothering you thought them just stop hanging out with her then. But really you need to find a way to get over this small flaw of hers. If you two get in a fight over small stuff like that then you might as well end the relationship now, cause you won't be able to go through harder stuff together.
Saturday, August 21, 2010
How do you deal with friends that may not be tolerant?
hey, i'm studying in college and I have this new friend. I used to be closed with her but she's really sensitive and hot tempered. If she disagrees to something, she'll just show it so obviously by the way she acts the following days. First, she'll just ignore you as you are invisible. Next, she'll somehow try to pull your self esteem down as if you just block the whole world to move. sigh.
I've been tolerating with her for so long. Why should she shows everytime she doesn't like something or even just a very small matter. We're supposed to be tolerating. Not just me or others.How about her? Dont just show that face of yours..i bet she have try to be tolerant. Friends are about accepting the weakness and tolerating isn't it? I just feel sick of her actions. Sometimes, I thought it is rather childish. She's going to face problems when she's out working or something if she still insist on that. Before that, I thought I have problems when dealing with friends and people. I felt really miserable but feel much better now. How do you guys see it? Thanks for the advice =) I may have my own weakness too and still improving on that. I just want to know what you guys think.How do you deal with friends that may not be tolerant?
Your friend has obviously not grown up yet. Address her with the problem, if she acts childish choose other people to hang around with. You should hang out with people who are going to benefit you. Choose to hang with positive people who will help you grow and experience a beautiful life. Not with someone who is constantly stressing you out and pulling you down. Good luck with your problem, i hope i was a help.How do you deal with friends that may not be tolerant?
Maybe your not tolerant of them.
I've been tolerating with her for so long. Why should she shows everytime she doesn't like something or even just a very small matter. We're supposed to be tolerating. Not just me or others.How about her? Dont just show that face of yours..i bet she have try to be tolerant. Friends are about accepting the weakness and tolerating isn't it? I just feel sick of her actions. Sometimes, I thought it is rather childish. She's going to face problems when she's out working or something if she still insist on that. Before that, I thought I have problems when dealing with friends and people. I felt really miserable but feel much better now. How do you guys see it? Thanks for the advice =) I may have my own weakness too and still improving on that. I just want to know what you guys think.How do you deal with friends that may not be tolerant?
Your friend has obviously not grown up yet. Address her with the problem, if she acts childish choose other people to hang around with. You should hang out with people who are going to benefit you. Choose to hang with positive people who will help you grow and experience a beautiful life. Not with someone who is constantly stressing you out and pulling you down. Good luck with your problem, i hope i was a help.How do you deal with friends that may not be tolerant?
Maybe your not tolerant of them.
How to deal with friends who change..?
So I had a best friend in high school - we were super tight, did everything together, etc. Well, we're now in our third year of university and our relationship is slowly deteriorating more and more as time goes on. There have been several occasions over the last few yrs where she has left me hanging/blew me off and I have really come to resent her for it (I'm really hurt by it). Yet, we remain ';friends'; but I struggle with this because she is not the friend she once was to me, not even close. (This being said, I know deep down she cares about me and wants to stay friends).
Do I just accept the fact that she has become a relatively flaky person and that we're likely only going to talk when she can spare 5 minutes? Am I just supposed to ';take what I can get'; from now on and be fine with it? I'm wondering - if someone used to be such a good friend and turned into someone who makes far less effort than they used to, why bother keeping them at all? Plus, she has changed in other ways - she drinks/parties a lot now (she hasn't tired of it yet..) and has SUCH a naive attitude towards guys! I spend most of our ';friendship'; irritated at the crappy friend she has become.
Thoughts? Thanks.How to deal with friends who change..?
Don't make any announcements about how your friendship is over. Just put this friendship on a back burner and start spending time with other people. Quit calling this person, and when she calls you say...Oh dear, that sounds so lovely and I would certainly have loved to have done that, but I have already made plans.
The world will go around and around and, one day, your friend will grow up and be a better companion. That is why you don't make announcements that the friendship is over, you just quit putting time into it for now.How to deal with friends who change..?
Unfortunately, nothing is forever (except Christ). People grow apart. Start cultivating a new set of friends.
Sometimes friends grow apart and you just have to adjust and move on like she has. Its obvious that she doesn't value the friendship that you once shared. So its time to move on and find you some new friends and don't worry she will wake up and want to be your friend again and then you can blow her off.
Uh, I don't know what you think your choices are besides either taking it or leaving it.
Sometimes friendships will go through times when the friends are less close, then they get close again; sometimes they end.
If you're not happy in the friendship NOW, then why keep getting in touch?
You can't change her. All you can do is choose whether to contact her the same, less, or not at all.
Do I just accept the fact that she has become a relatively flaky person and that we're likely only going to talk when she can spare 5 minutes? Am I just supposed to ';take what I can get'; from now on and be fine with it? I'm wondering - if someone used to be such a good friend and turned into someone who makes far less effort than they used to, why bother keeping them at all? Plus, she has changed in other ways - she drinks/parties a lot now (she hasn't tired of it yet..) and has SUCH a naive attitude towards guys! I spend most of our ';friendship'; irritated at the crappy friend she has become.
Thoughts? Thanks.How to deal with friends who change..?
Don't make any announcements about how your friendship is over. Just put this friendship on a back burner and start spending time with other people. Quit calling this person, and when she calls you say...Oh dear, that sounds so lovely and I would certainly have loved to have done that, but I have already made plans.
The world will go around and around and, one day, your friend will grow up and be a better companion. That is why you don't make announcements that the friendship is over, you just quit putting time into it for now.How to deal with friends who change..?
Unfortunately, nothing is forever (except Christ). People grow apart. Start cultivating a new set of friends.
Sometimes friends grow apart and you just have to adjust and move on like she has. Its obvious that she doesn't value the friendship that you once shared. So its time to move on and find you some new friends and don't worry she will wake up and want to be your friend again and then you can blow her off.
Uh, I don't know what you think your choices are besides either taking it or leaving it.
Sometimes friendships will go through times when the friends are less close, then they get close again; sometimes they end.
If you're not happy in the friendship NOW, then why keep getting in touch?
You can't change her. All you can do is choose whether to contact her the same, less, or not at all.
How do i deal with friends that hate my girlfriend?
So i have dated this absolutely amazing girl for the past year and a half. But my friends have always trashed her and said that she takes me away from spending time with ';the homies';. Now this girl happens to be a very high maintenance girl friend. but most girls are anyways and trust me......this girl's worth it. But my friends start even trashing me for going out with her. and the more they do this, the more I start feeling pushed away and unliked by them. So eventually it gets to me and i break up with my girl friend for my friends. and i spend 2 months single. single life has its benefits but i didn't like it as much as my gf and i went back to how it used to be with my friends. Now in this past week i've been talking to my ex and have been hooking up with her and the whole shabang but i can't let my friends know this. or should i tell them? I guess i could always keep her a secret. but then i would have to be living a lie. remember my friends hate the idea of me and this girl together so much, that if they knew i ever went near her some of them would leave my side forever. i have NO idea what to do with them or this girl i reaalllllllyy am in love with. need help.How do i deal with friends that hate my girlfriend?
You need to figure out exactly why it is they don't like her. This is a common reoccuring theme but usually there is an underlying problem and you should ask them and really listen to them, and explain how much you like her. If it really just is that you spend all your time with her, then honestly you should change that around. It's not good to spend all your time with your gf. You do need to make some time with your other friends. And yes, you should tell them that you two are back together. If she really does mean that much to you and you don't want to lose her again then you need to let her know that you DO want people to know you are with her and she's not just some secret.How do i deal with friends that hate my girlfriend?
Are they truly your friends if their trashing your girl friend? Most likely they are jealous,I'm assuming that they don't have girl friends.You need to make a decision,if they are truly your friends then they'll stand by your side.You can't keep breaking up with this girl to play the field and please them.Follow your heart,what is your gut feeling?Do what pleases you.
if they were true friends they would support you either way. my boyfriend's friends trashed me for a year and now they learned to accept that he wants to be with me. i think you should do the same. tell your friends to lay off and stop saying stuff about her. if you love your girlfriend then nobody should take that away from you. if they still do it then they really arent true friends.
If you love the girl then forget what you friends say; is your life; more specially your LOVE LIFE. You should try to spent more time with them though; so they won't feel left out, cus it sounds like you're always with your girlfriend. But don't leave her! sounds like you really love her, and if your friend love you they'll understand.
If you lie about your girlfriend you are soooo crazy!! Since when did these friends become your life manager? Tell them where to go and live your life. If this girl is worth it, your mates will soon get over themselves and find a new 'homie' to trash! x
You need to make a choice. You can either let your ';friends'; determine who date or you can date who you want and tell your ';friends'; to **ck off; I'm pretty sure they will understand that reply. They sound like a bunch of childish jerks.
The girl comes first.
They can't be real friends if they can't be happy for you. Look at it the simplest way... they're jealous and don't have lives of their own.
My ex is doing this to me..
he's keeping me a secret.. (though im keeping him a secret too)
but relly.. choose the girl or the friends..
yur friends sound like jerks
my ex's are.. they broke us up
just follow yur heart okayy?
tell them to F off if they are your freinds they wouldnt be dissing on your girlfreind
Listen, if you really love someone you shouldn't feel as though you can't be with them because of your friends. From my own experience friends come and go through out your life no matter how long you've known each other. And if they were real friends they'd see that you really love her and your serious about her. Dumping her for your friends was the worssse thing you could do because now she's gonna feel horrible that you chose your friends over her. How do you know you won't marry this girl someday? Don't dump her cause your friends. If they still give you **** about it they're not your real friends. And I wouldn't wanna know what they're saying behind your back if they're saying this stuff to your face. Your going to spend the rest of your life with a girl, not your friends. So if you really loved this girl you'd go after her no matter wtf anyonnne thought. You love her, its your life not there's.mortgage rate grey hair
You need to figure out exactly why it is they don't like her. This is a common reoccuring theme but usually there is an underlying problem and you should ask them and really listen to them, and explain how much you like her. If it really just is that you spend all your time with her, then honestly you should change that around. It's not good to spend all your time with your gf. You do need to make some time with your other friends. And yes, you should tell them that you two are back together. If she really does mean that much to you and you don't want to lose her again then you need to let her know that you DO want people to know you are with her and she's not just some secret.How do i deal with friends that hate my girlfriend?
Are they truly your friends if their trashing your girl friend? Most likely they are jealous,I'm assuming that they don't have girl friends.You need to make a decision,if they are truly your friends then they'll stand by your side.You can't keep breaking up with this girl to play the field and please them.Follow your heart,what is your gut feeling?Do what pleases you.
if they were true friends they would support you either way. my boyfriend's friends trashed me for a year and now they learned to accept that he wants to be with me. i think you should do the same. tell your friends to lay off and stop saying stuff about her. if you love your girlfriend then nobody should take that away from you. if they still do it then they really arent true friends.
If you love the girl then forget what you friends say; is your life; more specially your LOVE LIFE. You should try to spent more time with them though; so they won't feel left out, cus it sounds like you're always with your girlfriend. But don't leave her! sounds like you really love her, and if your friend love you they'll understand.
If you lie about your girlfriend you are soooo crazy!! Since when did these friends become your life manager? Tell them where to go and live your life. If this girl is worth it, your mates will soon get over themselves and find a new 'homie' to trash! x
You need to make a choice. You can either let your ';friends'; determine who date or you can date who you want and tell your ';friends'; to **ck off; I'm pretty sure they will understand that reply. They sound like a bunch of childish jerks.
The girl comes first.
They can't be real friends if they can't be happy for you. Look at it the simplest way... they're jealous and don't have lives of their own.
My ex is doing this to me..
he's keeping me a secret.. (though im keeping him a secret too)
but relly.. choose the girl or the friends..
yur friends sound like jerks
my ex's are.. they broke us up
just follow yur heart okayy?
tell them to F off if they are your freinds they wouldnt be dissing on your girlfreind
Listen, if you really love someone you shouldn't feel as though you can't be with them because of your friends. From my own experience friends come and go through out your life no matter how long you've known each other. And if they were real friends they'd see that you really love her and your serious about her. Dumping her for your friends was the worssse thing you could do because now she's gonna feel horrible that you chose your friends over her. How do you know you won't marry this girl someday? Don't dump her cause your friends. If they still give you **** about it they're not your real friends. And I wouldn't wanna know what they're saying behind your back if they're saying this stuff to your face. Your going to spend the rest of your life with a girl, not your friends. So if you really loved this girl you'd go after her no matter wtf anyonnne thought. You love her, its your life not there's.
How to deal with a friends miscarriage? What do I say or do to make her feel better?
I think the best thing you can do is to let her know that you care and that you are there for her if she needs you. Send her cards frequently - just to say you're thinking about her. Send her some funny ones, too - to lighten her mood. Maybe offer to take her to the spa for the two of you to get a pedicure or something fun! Get her out of the house once in a while. Don't try to forget about the baby she lost, but try to get her mind onto more pleasant things for a while.How to deal with a friends miscarriage? What do I say or do to make her feel better?
Well, just tell her you are sorry and that if she needs anything to let you know. She may not want to talk about it at all. Just let her be the lead. BTW, someone told me it was better off because the baby was probably malformed. I knew that to be true, but really wasn't in the mood for hearing it.
Best of luck!!!How to deal with a friends miscarriage? What do I say or do to make her feel better?
just ask her if she would like to talk about it and maybe go to her house and spend time with her. She is probably feeling very lonely right now. If she doesn't want to talk about it then just let it go but still be there for her. Some women don't like talking about miscarriages right after they happen. Don't tell her that you know where she's coming from or that once she gets pregnant again it will feel better. Just let her say what she needs to say and offer her some kind words....like that you will be there for her and if she needs any help to just let you know.
just tell her you are always there for her, that she can talk to you about anything.
I went through the same problem with my friend. You cant really say anything, just be there for her when she needs you.
The best thing that you can do is give her a shoulder to cry on. She just needs somebody to listen and be there for her. I have had several friends in the last few years have miscarriages and that was all that I could do...but it was all that they wanted as well. I'm sorry to hear of your friends loss.
Just Spend time with her. In reality there is nothing you can do , or say. All you can do is be there an be a support system for her.
You don't have to say a word ... just give her a hug and let her know your there for her! I wouldn't dare suggest ';what'; to say - I've never had a miscarriage and couldn't imagine how it feels. Letting her know your there for her if she needs to cry, yell, or just stare at you is what I'd suggest. A true friend (which you obviously are!) doesn't need to say anything .. just hold her head while she cries. Sorry for BOTH of your loss - I wish you the best!
I would start by saying a prayer for her, I just did, I know that prayers are always answered. I nice card, with a hand written note would show that you care as well.
There isn't anything you can say. Just be there for a shoulder to cry on. If they need talk then listen. Don;t bring up ';having another'; or ';trying again';. You meen well, but its too hard hear, and its what everyone feels the need to say.
Having a loss like this is hard to understand even for the person that had the miscarriage. They happen for lots of reasons and not all are known by medical science. Sometimes it just happens, thats when its the hardest, you don't have any answers and all you feel is guilt and loss.
My friend had two miscarriages in 4 months. All you can really do is say your sorry it happened to her, and it had to happen for a reason. Keep incouraging her to not give up hope and to not be discouraged to try again. I usually never brought up the subject unless she did. It was also really hard because when she had her miscarriages, i was pregnant at the time which made it really hard for me. I tried not to buy baby stuff around her. But still talked about what was going on with my pregnancy. It somehow helped to make her feel better and feel like not giving up on trying to have a baby.
Make sure you let her know you are there for her if she needs to talk. I had a miscarriage in August and I certainly found out who my friends were. There is nothing you can say that can change it but just let her know you are there for her thats all I needed but my friend let me down big time.
Well, just tell her you are sorry and that if she needs anything to let you know. She may not want to talk about it at all. Just let her be the lead. BTW, someone told me it was better off because the baby was probably malformed. I knew that to be true, but really wasn't in the mood for hearing it.
Best of luck!!!How to deal with a friends miscarriage? What do I say or do to make her feel better?
just ask her if she would like to talk about it and maybe go to her house and spend time with her. She is probably feeling very lonely right now. If she doesn't want to talk about it then just let it go but still be there for her. Some women don't like talking about miscarriages right after they happen. Don't tell her that you know where she's coming from or that once she gets pregnant again it will feel better. Just let her say what she needs to say and offer her some kind words....like that you will be there for her and if she needs any help to just let you know.
just tell her you are always there for her, that she can talk to you about anything.
I went through the same problem with my friend. You cant really say anything, just be there for her when she needs you.
The best thing that you can do is give her a shoulder to cry on. She just needs somebody to listen and be there for her. I have had several friends in the last few years have miscarriages and that was all that I could do...but it was all that they wanted as well. I'm sorry to hear of your friends loss.
Just Spend time with her. In reality there is nothing you can do , or say. All you can do is be there an be a support system for her.
You don't have to say a word ... just give her a hug and let her know your there for her! I wouldn't dare suggest ';what'; to say - I've never had a miscarriage and couldn't imagine how it feels. Letting her know your there for her if she needs to cry, yell, or just stare at you is what I'd suggest. A true friend (which you obviously are!) doesn't need to say anything .. just hold her head while she cries. Sorry for BOTH of your loss - I wish you the best!
I would start by saying a prayer for her, I just did, I know that prayers are always answered. I nice card, with a hand written note would show that you care as well.
There isn't anything you can say. Just be there for a shoulder to cry on. If they need talk then listen. Don;t bring up ';having another'; or ';trying again';. You meen well, but its too hard hear, and its what everyone feels the need to say.
Having a loss like this is hard to understand even for the person that had the miscarriage. They happen for lots of reasons and not all are known by medical science. Sometimes it just happens, thats when its the hardest, you don't have any answers and all you feel is guilt and loss.
My friend had two miscarriages in 4 months. All you can really do is say your sorry it happened to her, and it had to happen for a reason. Keep incouraging her to not give up hope and to not be discouraged to try again. I usually never brought up the subject unless she did. It was also really hard because when she had her miscarriages, i was pregnant at the time which made it really hard for me. I tried not to buy baby stuff around her. But still talked about what was going on with my pregnancy. It somehow helped to make her feel better and feel like not giving up on trying to have a baby.
Make sure you let her know you are there for her if she needs to talk. I had a miscarriage in August and I certainly found out who my friends were. There is nothing you can say that can change it but just let her know you are there for her thats all I needed but my friend let me down big time.
How to deal with friends moving away?
I'm 20 years old and I'm a kind of shy person and for me to make friends it takes alot and once i open up to people i become attached and care about them as if theyre a part of my family. Ever since I was young I had a huge fear of rejection and abandonment. Over the last year and a half I have had 3 of my friends move to florida [i live in pennsylvania], 2 move to new york, 1 move to south carolina, 1 move to california, and 2 die. So I only have like 3 good friends left...and I just found out today that one of my friends and her daughter are moving to tennessee in a few weeks. I try to keep in touch with my friends that moved by talking on the phone/online but its not the same as when their around. What are some things i can do to cheer up and not feel so lonely, it feels like everyone just wants to leave me. Please dont just say go make some friends because I try, i'm just not a very social/talkative person. And alot of activities that i like to do, require having lots of people with you [like sports and games]How to deal with friends moving away?
just keep in touch though email, texting, talking, and visiting them as often as you can is most all you can do...
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just keep in touch though email, texting, talking, and visiting them as often as you can is most all you can do...
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How do deal with friends who ditch you?
Okay, so it has been my 3rd month so far in college. At first everything was great, I was friends with my roommate and made a bunch of other friends, just a giant group of friends (six of us total), we would go to the Mall, and to dinner at the cafeteria. But a couple weeks ago my roommate (she's kinda like the leader of the group) started to break away and spend time with our friends and invite me last minute, and in the last 2 weeks not invite me at all. We all used to go to dinner together, now the five of them go together without inviting me, we all used to have movie night on Fridays, but now I noticed all my friends leaving at nights on Fridays and coming back late from the movies (we all live across from each other in the same dorm), now they go the Mall without me, and whenever I try to talk to them they answer quickly and harshly like they are angry at me or know something but don't want to tell me or just ignore me completely(example: I asked my friend if she was going to a club we both participate in on campus, she just looked up from her computer said no and then ignored me when I was going to ask her something else), just now I was on Facebook and they left without me to go shopping. I don't know what to do; I think I should talk about it with them, but my roommate is one of my supposed friends and I don't want to make things awkward for us the rest of the year, I don't want to smother my friends if they don't want me there either, i don't want to be invited out of pity or guilt, which makes me wonder if that is why they were nice at first and invited me out at all in the first place. I don't think I said anything to make them angry at me, I always check my words before I say them and they haven't said anything to me. Help, what should I do?How do deal with friends who ditch you?
forget about it. go find new friends. get off the internet.
people change groups of friends in the first year of college all the time. sure, it sucks right now, but step back from the situation and take a look. Youre roomate sounds mean. better for you to find out now than after you wasted time being her friend for a year or something.
get new friends. and try and live in peace with your roomate because even though shes mean you still have to look at her everyday.How do deal with friends who ditch you?
Easy. Forget them. I'm in middle school and I dealt with the same BS. I got tired of it and even though I didn't have any other friends I just stayed alone for a while then found REAL friends that didn't ditch me. It sucks being alone but it's all worth it in the end when you find real people. Also, some of the people that ditched me ended up following me and I ditched them. They got a taste of their own medicine. :) lol
forget about it. go find new friends. get off the internet.
people change groups of friends in the first year of college all the time. sure, it sucks right now, but step back from the situation and take a look. Youre roomate sounds mean. better for you to find out now than after you wasted time being her friend for a year or something.
get new friends. and try and live in peace with your roomate because even though shes mean you still have to look at her everyday.How do deal with friends who ditch you?
Easy. Forget them. I'm in middle school and I dealt with the same BS. I got tired of it and even though I didn't have any other friends I just stayed alone for a while then found REAL friends that didn't ditch me. It sucks being alone but it's all worth it in the end when you find real people. Also, some of the people that ditched me ended up following me and I ditched them. They got a taste of their own medicine. :) lol
How do u deal with friends like mine?!?
i know this girl bob ,, she lies a lot and kinda thinks shes the smartest .. shes one of those friends who only talk to u when their bored or when no body is around to chat with .. we do get along and laugh all day but i know shes only doing it because shes bored she gets bitchy from time to time .. sometimes she looks for fights then i say '; **** it'; i leave never call again after a while she calls and wanna start being friends but we keep doing the same thing when ever shes bored she chats i aint her backup friend .. i dont need that ***** i got enough friends its just other friends will be like '; howcome u dont talk to her anymore what did she do '; i dunno what to say ..plus sometime she uses me to get her stupid ugly *** looking bf jealous dont get me wrong i dont want to go out with her i dont date bi girls ..
and there is guy kevin my friend for long time when he talks to me i reply and we chat but when i talk to him hes like '; be right back'; then never come backHow do u deal with friends like mine?!?
Some people are interested mainly in themselves. It sounds like your friend is like that. We can't change people so you could finish the friendship altogether or accept it for what it is; a part time friend. I have had a few friends over the years that want a shoulder to cry on, but are never there when I need one. Some I was willing to accept them knowing that; others I didn't bother with. You need to chose. As far as Kevin goes, does he initiate conversation? If he does, ask him why he says brb and doesn't come back. Tell him it's ok if he doesn't want to chat but to be honest. Good luck!How do u deal with friends like mine?!?
I would look for better friends.
I can't decide if you are girl or guy
What would I do? Get out of that friendship! You don't need to live like that when you have the choice to get out. Friends are supposed to be people that build you up and really care about you. It sounds like this girl doesn't care about you at all. You can do better.
u expect me to read all that???no thanx
and there is guy kevin my friend for long time when he talks to me i reply and we chat but when i talk to him hes like '; be right back'; then never come backHow do u deal with friends like mine?!?
Some people are interested mainly in themselves. It sounds like your friend is like that. We can't change people so you could finish the friendship altogether or accept it for what it is; a part time friend. I have had a few friends over the years that want a shoulder to cry on, but are never there when I need one. Some I was willing to accept them knowing that; others I didn't bother with. You need to chose. As far as Kevin goes, does he initiate conversation? If he does, ask him why he says brb and doesn't come back. Tell him it's ok if he doesn't want to chat but to be honest. Good luck!How do u deal with friends like mine?!?
I would look for better friends.
I can't decide if you are girl or guy
What would I do? Get out of that friendship! You don't need to live like that when you have the choice to get out. Friends are supposed to be people that build you up and really care about you. It sounds like this girl doesn't care about you at all. You can do better.
u expect me to read all that???no thanx
How do you deal with backstabbing friends?
My friends Leslie Kohut, Danielle Cole, and Shelby Lanterman are very mean to me and do mean email stuff to be behind my back. I was able to enter Leslie's email once, but now I cant cuz she changed the password. I really want revenge or to somehow get rid of her, but how?How do you deal with backstabbing friends?
The mature thing to do is walk away from this situation and make some new friends. Trying to get revenge on them only brings you down to their level.
Anyway, the best revenge is the kind they can even pin on you... say like 'accidently' misplacing a few of their things. Not stealing, just misplacing. Makes them frustrated!How do you deal with backstabbing friends?
hello there Mimi Cornish its Lilly*leslie* u kno in ur paper thing and we did nuthin 2 u ur the real backstabber we help u and this is wut we get? and ur only doing this because you want attion and because ur a backstabbing lying nasty*A.K.A a mother ****** *****!*
Hellooo whoo Aree You liike And Whats Happened ?? x
I don't have any
ps I don't believe in friend s
If they are backstabbing, then the way I look at it , is that they are definately not worth while as having as friends
change your email and disassociate yourself from those hefers.
are they really you're friends. I suggest just ignore it cos all their doing it trying to get a reaction out of you.
You just did...shame on you for giving their full names. What kind of back-stabbing friend are you?
THEY AREN'T YOUR FRIENDS . YOU ARE THEIR WHIPPING POST . GET OUT NOW AND CHOOSE YOUR FRIENDS WISELY . FRIENDS DON'T DO THAT TO OTHER FRIENDS .
Revenge is not the answer. It will only bring ill health and pain to yourself...not anyone else. While you are still holding this grudge, they have moved on to bigger and better things.
i had the same problem you gotta stand up for yourself if you can cuss say it how it is hit 'em asswipes once or twice call 'em; ******* or somethinh like dat
just leave them alone. stop calling emailing texting etc. theyll get the picture. you dont need em if they aint f***in, feeding or financin you.
i would recommend new friends. all of that stress isn't good for anyone.
If their any real friends they wouldnt be doing that. You really shouldnt do anyhting cuz that will make you the same as they are. If they keep on doing it find new friends.
Don't get involved. You'll only add to your stress level and never really resolve anything. Go to the library and check out the book entitled ';When Anger Hurts: Quieting the Storm Within'; and read it.
Obviously there's no trust, so how can you guys be friends?
I'd say move on.
I feel bad for you hon. I would tell you to trust very few but alot of people will put their 2 cents in about that. Just watch your back in all areas of life. People are strange animals.
Make new friend and let others know what terrible friends they were. That way the only friends Leslie, Danielle, and Shelby will have is each other.
Danielle told me that is was just Leslie who was doing the email stuff. I know what the new password is but I have promised not to tell anyone. Sorry.
Girl to those bitches to kiss your *** and got o hell. You don't need friends like that. Find new ones, get a hobby and move on, they certainly have.
You shouldn't be posting their full names on this website. That is just plain stupid and dangerous also.
If they are that bad then don't hang out with them. Find new friends. Rediscover and old friend. Don't waste precious time focusing on revenge. That will get you nowhere.
abruptly and quickly treat them as though they do not even exist.
How do you consider these people to be your friends? Were they ever your friend? How long were you all friends b/f You found out that they were doing this and when did they start being mean to you. I do not know if these people should have ever been considered your friends b/c they seem to be nasty people at work or school--more of acquaintances instead of friends. You just need to confront them and try to understand that people are often mean to others who they are jealous of and sometimes people are just plain mean for no real excuse. So just talk to them and find out and let them know how you feel--if they are important to you.
SORRY TO HEAR THAT. FIRST OFF, LOOK UP THE WORD FRIEND IN THE DICTIONARY. SECOND, DON'T LOWER YOURSELF TO THEIR LEVEL. THIRD, ALLOW YOURSELF TEN MIN. TO BE SAD AT THE LOSS OF WHAT USED TO BE A GOOD FRIENDSHIP AND THEN MOVE ON. HOLDING ONTO ANGER, HATE, DISAPPOINTMENT, AND SADNESS ARE ALL NEGATIVES TO YOUR EMOTIONS. LOOK FOR OTHERS THAT ARE MORE INTELLIGENT AND LESS DRAMATIC. LIFE'S TOO SHORT TO HAVE BACKSTABBERS ANYWHERE IN YOUR LIFE.mortgage rate grey hair
The mature thing to do is walk away from this situation and make some new friends. Trying to get revenge on them only brings you down to their level.
Anyway, the best revenge is the kind they can even pin on you... say like 'accidently' misplacing a few of their things. Not stealing, just misplacing. Makes them frustrated!How do you deal with backstabbing friends?
hello there Mimi Cornish its Lilly*leslie* u kno in ur paper thing and we did nuthin 2 u ur the real backstabber we help u and this is wut we get? and ur only doing this because you want attion and because ur a backstabbing lying nasty*A.K.A a mother ****** *****!*
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I don't have any
ps I don't believe in friend s
If they are backstabbing, then the way I look at it , is that they are definately not worth while as having as friends
change your email and disassociate yourself from those hefers.
are they really you're friends. I suggest just ignore it cos all their doing it trying to get a reaction out of you.
You just did...shame on you for giving their full names. What kind of back-stabbing friend are you?
THEY AREN'T YOUR FRIENDS . YOU ARE THEIR WHIPPING POST . GET OUT NOW AND CHOOSE YOUR FRIENDS WISELY . FRIENDS DON'T DO THAT TO OTHER FRIENDS .
Revenge is not the answer. It will only bring ill health and pain to yourself...not anyone else. While you are still holding this grudge, they have moved on to bigger and better things.
i had the same problem you gotta stand up for yourself if you can cuss say it how it is hit 'em asswipes once or twice call 'em; ******* or somethinh like dat
just leave them alone. stop calling emailing texting etc. theyll get the picture. you dont need em if they aint f***in, feeding or financin you.
i would recommend new friends. all of that stress isn't good for anyone.
If their any real friends they wouldnt be doing that. You really shouldnt do anyhting cuz that will make you the same as they are. If they keep on doing it find new friends.
Don't get involved. You'll only add to your stress level and never really resolve anything. Go to the library and check out the book entitled ';When Anger Hurts: Quieting the Storm Within'; and read it.
Obviously there's no trust, so how can you guys be friends?
I'd say move on.
I feel bad for you hon. I would tell you to trust very few but alot of people will put their 2 cents in about that. Just watch your back in all areas of life. People are strange animals.
Make new friend and let others know what terrible friends they were. That way the only friends Leslie, Danielle, and Shelby will have is each other.
Danielle told me that is was just Leslie who was doing the email stuff. I know what the new password is but I have promised not to tell anyone. Sorry.
Girl to those bitches to kiss your *** and got o hell. You don't need friends like that. Find new ones, get a hobby and move on, they certainly have.
You shouldn't be posting their full names on this website. That is just plain stupid and dangerous also.
If they are that bad then don't hang out with them. Find new friends. Rediscover and old friend. Don't waste precious time focusing on revenge. That will get you nowhere.
abruptly and quickly treat them as though they do not even exist.
How do you consider these people to be your friends? Were they ever your friend? How long were you all friends b/f You found out that they were doing this and when did they start being mean to you. I do not know if these people should have ever been considered your friends b/c they seem to be nasty people at work or school--more of acquaintances instead of friends. You just need to confront them and try to understand that people are often mean to others who they are jealous of and sometimes people are just plain mean for no real excuse. So just talk to them and find out and let them know how you feel--if they are important to you.
SORRY TO HEAR THAT. FIRST OFF, LOOK UP THE WORD FRIEND IN THE DICTIONARY. SECOND, DON'T LOWER YOURSELF TO THEIR LEVEL. THIRD, ALLOW YOURSELF TEN MIN. TO BE SAD AT THE LOSS OF WHAT USED TO BE A GOOD FRIENDSHIP AND THEN MOVE ON. HOLDING ONTO ANGER, HATE, DISAPPOINTMENT, AND SADNESS ARE ALL NEGATIVES TO YOUR EMOTIONS. LOOK FOR OTHERS THAT ARE MORE INTELLIGENT AND LESS DRAMATIC. LIFE'S TOO SHORT TO HAVE BACKSTABBERS ANYWHERE IN YOUR LIFE.
How do you deal with Jealous Friends?
I can't help but think that my friends are jealous of me, when it comes to almost every aspect of our college lives. Most of their comments are about my attire, which they think is too ';preppy/casual/well-put together';. One said, ';I make them look bad by the way I dress';, ';they feel weird hanging out with me etc';. I go to parties with them and people (esp. unknown girls) come up to me and introduce themselves...which always angers them. This behavior is annoying. What is your take on it?How do you deal with Jealous Friends?
tell them they need to get over it and you're sorry if you are confident and can dress. And if they don't like it you can make new friends because you don't need people trying to drag you down with them because they are insecure.
please answer mine it's long but i spaced it out so it's not boring and it's very important to me.http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?鈥?/a>How do you deal with Jealous Friends?
Try to point out to them the good things about there life too. Tell them that even though they are jealous of you and your life seems perfect compared to there's that every ones lives have there ups and downs. Today there life may seem way worse then yours, but in a few days there life might be just as good. No one has a perfect life, and right now there's might seem way worse then yours, but it will get better. It will always get better.
They are not truly your friends if their jealous and make bad comments on how you dress, people who you keep around you that are always jealous of you will only hold you back and get on your nerves, i would say let them be jealous or drop them
They are jealous because you are getting all the attention.
tell them they need to get over it and you're sorry if you are confident and can dress. And if they don't like it you can make new friends because you don't need people trying to drag you down with them because they are insecure.
please answer mine it's long but i spaced it out so it's not boring and it's very important to me.http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?鈥?/a>How do you deal with Jealous Friends?
Try to point out to them the good things about there life too. Tell them that even though they are jealous of you and your life seems perfect compared to there's that every ones lives have there ups and downs. Today there life may seem way worse then yours, but in a few days there life might be just as good. No one has a perfect life, and right now there's might seem way worse then yours, but it will get better. It will always get better.
They are not truly your friends if their jealous and make bad comments on how you dress, people who you keep around you that are always jealous of you will only hold you back and get on your nerves, i would say let them be jealous or drop them
They are jealous because you are getting all the attention.
How do you deal with backstabbing friends?
My best friend, that i've known for 4 yrs., sends me text messages cursing at me and whatever. But, I said nothing to her but, i miss you and gotta see u soon. She was my best friend, and now its like i cant believe her. She put her other friend before me, brittany, even though i had her back thru everything!How do you deal with backstabbing friends?
I would leave her alone. Maybe it's just a sign that she's not a good person and be careful of her. I would say maybe get a new best friend because it looks like this one doesn't deserve you ! i found out my best friend was talking about me behind my back and just being fake we been best friends for 4 years. I cried because she was the person i trusted most and was closest to closer than my sisters. I got a new best friend now and trust her completely. leave her alone she's not really your best friend !!
';I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when their right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust noone but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.';
鈥?Marilyn MonroeHow do you deal with backstabbing friends?
try to talk to her about it and why she is upset.
dump her. she has never been your friend
How do you deal with backstabbing friends? Simple, you don't.
Just keep being a friend. Don't worry so much about Brittany and don't make a big deal out of it. In the meantime make other friends. Your friend knows you and knows you'll be there for her. She'll come back to being your friend. In the meantime have fun with your new friends. Just don't stop being a friend just because your friend is a bit immature. She can do well to learn from you. Be the better person and you will draw people like yourself to you.
if talking to her about it doesnt work deck her in the face . thats what i would do if she's a ***** about it .
The hardest thing to do is to ';IGNORE'; some one or someones remarks.
But trust me it is the most powerfully medicine.
It will drive your adversary Absolutely crazy.
The Only way to fight.
Do not ever answer and acknowledge their remarks.
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You give her a new title. Ex-Friend.
Life is too short to be bothered by insignificant people who claim to be your friends.
I know 4 years seems like a long time to you now but it's a flash in the pan as you get older. I have jeans older than that. Shoot I am sure I have canned food older than that.
She is NOT your best friend. BFFs don't do that kind of stuff. Go find other people out there that have the decency to treat you well.
I know you had her back but she so does not have yours!
I would leave her alone. Maybe it's just a sign that she's not a good person and be careful of her. I would say maybe get a new best friend because it looks like this one doesn't deserve you ! i found out my best friend was talking about me behind my back and just being fake we been best friends for 4 years. I cried because she was the person i trusted most and was closest to closer than my sisters. I got a new best friend now and trust her completely. leave her alone she's not really your best friend !!
';I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when their right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust noone but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.';
鈥?Marilyn MonroeHow do you deal with backstabbing friends?
try to talk to her about it and why she is upset.
dump her. she has never been your friend
How do you deal with backstabbing friends? Simple, you don't.
Just keep being a friend. Don't worry so much about Brittany and don't make a big deal out of it. In the meantime make other friends. Your friend knows you and knows you'll be there for her. She'll come back to being your friend. In the meantime have fun with your new friends. Just don't stop being a friend just because your friend is a bit immature. She can do well to learn from you. Be the better person and you will draw people like yourself to you.
if talking to her about it doesnt work deck her in the face . thats what i would do if she's a ***** about it .
The hardest thing to do is to ';IGNORE'; some one or someones remarks.
But trust me it is the most powerfully medicine.
It will drive your adversary Absolutely crazy.
The Only way to fight.
Do not ever answer and acknowledge their remarks.
Please rate
You give her a new title. Ex-Friend.
Life is too short to be bothered by insignificant people who claim to be your friends.
I know 4 years seems like a long time to you now but it's a flash in the pan as you get older. I have jeans older than that. Shoot I am sure I have canned food older than that.
She is NOT your best friend. BFFs don't do that kind of stuff. Go find other people out there that have the decency to treat you well.
I know you had her back but she so does not have yours!
What is the deal with female friends?
I am a nice, smart mid-20 something female. For some reason all the girls I have become friends with in the last several years have all turned out to be back stabbing beezies. Most recently this girl who acted like a friend tried to get with my boyfriend. Do any other females encounter this? How do I meet nice female friends?What is the deal with female friends?
Well I have had my share of maneating friends, but I have a few that I know are my friends and they will be forever. We set ground rules and one of them is that we dont sleep, or kiss, or date the others man. My friend tried joking about me going out with her ex and I said I could never kiss a guy she had kissed. The women you encounter are not friends, but usually there are signs. One friend of mine in HS started dating my bf, it started with her getting his number from my phone book and calling him. I was furious that he went along with it! It ended up not working out with her and well he tried coming back to me but he was too late. And that friend was forever on my bad list, and still is to this day. She did the same to my other friend and she has been axed. Women can be catty at times. Just dont give up you will find your new BFF!What is the deal with female friends?
ha im a girl too. %26amp; same thing happened to me. A girl i was best-friends with for 16 years me %26amp; her stopped talking a few month's ago. I just think girls are too much alike, %26amp; once you think you can trust them all of a sudden something happends. i yet to come across a girl i can call my bestfriend so idk i wish i had one
Yes, I have had a few friends do that to me. But there are girls out there who will really care about you. The hard part is finding them and knowing if you really can trust them. I have a few friends who I know would NEVER backstab me. But... you have to be a good friend first in order to get a good friend.
Well I have had my share of maneating friends, but I have a few that I know are my friends and they will be forever. We set ground rules and one of them is that we dont sleep, or kiss, or date the others man. My friend tried joking about me going out with her ex and I said I could never kiss a guy she had kissed. The women you encounter are not friends, but usually there are signs. One friend of mine in HS started dating my bf, it started with her getting his number from my phone book and calling him. I was furious that he went along with it! It ended up not working out with her and well he tried coming back to me but he was too late. And that friend was forever on my bad list, and still is to this day. She did the same to my other friend and she has been axed. Women can be catty at times. Just dont give up you will find your new BFF!What is the deal with female friends?
ha im a girl too. %26amp; same thing happened to me. A girl i was best-friends with for 16 years me %26amp; her stopped talking a few month's ago. I just think girls are too much alike, %26amp; once you think you can trust them all of a sudden something happends. i yet to come across a girl i can call my bestfriend so idk i wish i had one
Yes, I have had a few friends do that to me. But there are girls out there who will really care about you. The hard part is finding them and knowing if you really can trust them. I have a few friends who I know would NEVER backstab me. But... you have to be a good friend first in order to get a good friend.
Help!! How to deal with a friends family who had an accident?
I have a friend who a member of her family just had an accident. She's been a close friend for years and she's been in the hospital with her family member and I haven't seen her for a few weeks because I am going to school and working and haven't really had time but the main reason is I don't want to be in the way especially knowing a lot of family will be at the hospital and co-workers and friends. I don't know what to get her what would help, what to say, how to help.Help!! How to deal with a friends family who had an accident?
Ask her if there is anything you can do to assist the family.Help!! How to deal with a friends family who had an accident?
Ask how you can help, if there's anything you can do and try and bring a little laughtet into her life.
Ask her if there is anything you can do to assist the family.Help!! How to deal with a friends family who had an accident?
Ask how you can help, if there's anything you can do and try and bring a little laughtet into her life.
How do you deal with a friends significant other who you do not like?
I have a great friend with a mean other half and it is tough to do things as couples.How do you deal with a friends significant other who you do not like?
Ignore them. Odds are it won't last in the long run anyway. You'll be there for your friend long after they're gone. Assuming they're a good friend, of course.How do you deal with a friends significant other who you do not like?
kick that motherf'uckers teeth in and show him who the alpha is
- Do less things as couples
smuggle pills into her drink, then she'll probably mess it up.
I don't know but be civil anyway you don't want to hurt your friend.
tell that friend that you're not going to put up with her if she acts like that
Jeeze. The best you can do is just talk to your close friend about it. If he can't understand then there is nothing you can do without stepping on some toes.
tell your friend you dont like them and if ur gonna hang out u prefer thats hes not there
or you can just suck it up and try to have fun and try to like them
Suck it up if you care for your best friend. I'm not saying this to be mean or uncaring, but really it's the best way to deal with it. I had to deal with my best friend's boyfriend for over a year before they broke up. The sad part is even after they broke up I had to deal with him for another 8 months. And I'd hate to consider the possibility that if they were to work ut I'd have to deal with him for the rest of my life. *shudders* But, if it's for best friend... well its worth it.
I've been through this thousands of times. Tell your friend how you feel and if you really can't handle him/her either ignore him/her or hang out with you're friend when their boyfriend/girlfriend's not around. Oh and a lot of times friends can tell weather or not a person deserves the friend or not. So wait it out and you may be surprised on weather or not if they actually make it.
The simple fact is that its either worth it or its not. You just might not be able to do things as couples if its really not something you feel you can put up with. My good friends husband is the biggest jerk, and pushes all her friends away. I still visit her regularly and have our daughters play but I try to avoid her husband if I can. I still get to see her and spend time with her, occasionally even have a girls night. Were still great friends. I didnt want to tell her though that I didnt like him, or that I felt he was rude ect. because it might make her feel uncomfortable and defensive and like she has to defend him by not seeing me anymore. I didnt want that so I just stayed away from him.
i didnt like my best friends boyfriend for a verrrrry long time... even when he proposed i told her not to marry him, she married him they have a baby and he is like the best husband she could ever ask for... he takes care of her she doesnt have to work(her choice) and when he gets home he cleans and watches the baby so she can relax, he is an awesome dad and husband
Ignore them. Odds are it won't last in the long run anyway. You'll be there for your friend long after they're gone. Assuming they're a good friend, of course.How do you deal with a friends significant other who you do not like?
kick that motherf'uckers teeth in and show him who the alpha is
- Do less things as couples
smuggle pills into her drink, then she'll probably mess it up.
I don't know but be civil anyway you don't want to hurt your friend.
tell that friend that you're not going to put up with her if she acts like that
Jeeze. The best you can do is just talk to your close friend about it. If he can't understand then there is nothing you can do without stepping on some toes.
tell your friend you dont like them and if ur gonna hang out u prefer thats hes not there
or you can just suck it up and try to have fun and try to like them
Suck it up if you care for your best friend. I'm not saying this to be mean or uncaring, but really it's the best way to deal with it. I had to deal with my best friend's boyfriend for over a year before they broke up. The sad part is even after they broke up I had to deal with him for another 8 months. And I'd hate to consider the possibility that if they were to work ut I'd have to deal with him for the rest of my life. *shudders* But, if it's for best friend... well its worth it.
I've been through this thousands of times. Tell your friend how you feel and if you really can't handle him/her either ignore him/her or hang out with you're friend when their boyfriend/girlfriend's not around. Oh and a lot of times friends can tell weather or not a person deserves the friend or not. So wait it out and you may be surprised on weather or not if they actually make it.
The simple fact is that its either worth it or its not. You just might not be able to do things as couples if its really not something you feel you can put up with. My good friends husband is the biggest jerk, and pushes all her friends away. I still visit her regularly and have our daughters play but I try to avoid her husband if I can. I still get to see her and spend time with her, occasionally even have a girls night. Were still great friends. I didnt want to tell her though that I didnt like him, or that I felt he was rude ect. because it might make her feel uncomfortable and defensive and like she has to defend him by not seeing me anymore. I didnt want that so I just stayed away from him.
i didnt like my best friends boyfriend for a verrrrry long time... even when he proposed i told her not to marry him, she married him they have a baby and he is like the best husband she could ever ask for... he takes care of her she doesnt have to work(her choice) and when he gets home he cleans and watches the baby so she can relax, he is an awesome dad and husband
How to deal with mean friends?
Hey! I sent out invites to a party i was having and a few people who used to be my friends found out. They are now yelling at me and being really snotty about the whole thing! What do I do with them? Should I invite them or not? What do I say to them?How to deal with mean friends?
Personally don't invite them. Here are 3 reasons why.
1.Your not friends any more
2.They shouldnt be concerned about what you do
3.Don't let them pressure youHow to deal with mean friends?
why you didn't invite them in the first place. there is always gonna be mean people in your life, like whenever you get a job you may have to deal with a mean boss. so get used to the comments that mean people make and analyze them, sometimes you can find things that you are doing wrong that you are not noticing when a mean person tells you. Sometimes they just want to make you feel bad, but just deal with it, and learn from the critics that other people make about you. but if you dont really want them at your party, just dont invite them, and ignore them if they are too mean.
I have a 14 year old daughter who has also had the same experience. This is tricky. Girls are just mean. I'm not sure why, but they just are, (try hard not to be one of them).
There are a couple of different things you could do. You could tell them that you are only allowed a certain number of friends because your mom said so, make her the bad guy. I'm sure she won't mind.
You could also remind them that you haven't been invited to all of their parties. It's best just to ignore their snotty comments and just ';kill them with kindness';.
Next time, you could just not send out invites and only tell a few of your friends just a few days ahead of time. I found that saved a lot of trouble.
Kill them with kindness but stand your ground. Let them know that as you have matured your selection, or circle, of friends has changed. A prime example would be the way they conducted themselves when they found out about your party. If they start yelling or cussing don't lower yourself to that level, excuse yourself and stroll away.
They'll probably think you're just inviting them because you want them to shut up. If you really want them at your party make up some phony story about how you thought you had enough invitations but you were a few short then give them there invitations. Or better yet, since there being so snotty don't invite them at all:)
Stand up for yourself...and don't let them treat you like that.
Let them know you are having some close friends over and you're entitled to do that...if you explain at all. they are owed no explaination in the first place. Just smile at them and say you're sorry, but maybe next time....If they straighten up their attitude--invite them next time,,if not--don't.
If they are causing that much trouble not being invited..you were right not to invite them.
Ask them to bring something that you don't need but would be nice.
Then if they do show, they will be part of the solution not the problem. If not who cares....
Tell them they are special so that is why you are asking them...if they ask..or you need to talk more.
By asking them to bring something they will feel special too..
Up to you if you want them there.
If you got room...why not..but ask them to bring something you do not need...
*****
In general for any situation,..
life is short..do what you want..but don't fret...
If in doubt DON';T
if you can't decide ---flip a coin.
you should not invite them cause then they are going to take control of you and start to punk you and you dont want that to happen. so what you do is tell them that they are not invited and tell them that i dont hang out with fake people! that is the best way to handle a a problem as a young lady!!
well i would tell them thats its my party and i can invite who i want to. if there your friends then they wouldnt be willing to yell at you because of something like this. i wouldnt invite them if there gonna act like that. there gay and they no it.
I don't think you should. If they were truly interested in being your friend, they would have asked you if they could come. It could be a reaction as well, maybe they missed you, but being humans they lashed out. You could try to talk to them first?
It doesn't sound like they are friends. Friends keep in touch even if they don't see each other. I would simply tell them this party is for my real friends and those are the people who communicate with even when there is no party involved.
Don't invite them!
Tell them that if they are going to act like that then they can not come at all but if they apologize then maybe you should CONSIDER inviting them. I hate when people are like that!
If you feel it will end the fight then invite them but if you think they will get nastier than stay away from them.
Dont invite anyone who is not a friend;there sour grapes over not getting an invite I guess
They used to be friends? Well their attitude confirms it.
Past tense. Bye Bye!
Only invite them if they're bringing Yahtzee.
Don't invite them! Just tell them that they aren't invited.
act as if nothing had happened and dont invite them. best of luck!
Mean friends are not real friends.
MY PARENTS CHOSE FOR ME SRY I'LL INVITE U TO THE NEXT ONE %26amp; ONLY A FEW PEOPLE ARE INVITED!!! WRITE BACK asap
Bang they friend
Get rid of them for good.They never were your friends.
Be strong!!
Let them all go phuqq themselves.
been their done that not going back i wouldnt invite them because they r rudemortgage rate grey hair
Personally don't invite them. Here are 3 reasons why.
1.Your not friends any more
2.They shouldnt be concerned about what you do
3.Don't let them pressure youHow to deal with mean friends?
why you didn't invite them in the first place. there is always gonna be mean people in your life, like whenever you get a job you may have to deal with a mean boss. so get used to the comments that mean people make and analyze them, sometimes you can find things that you are doing wrong that you are not noticing when a mean person tells you. Sometimes they just want to make you feel bad, but just deal with it, and learn from the critics that other people make about you. but if you dont really want them at your party, just dont invite them, and ignore them if they are too mean.
I have a 14 year old daughter who has also had the same experience. This is tricky. Girls are just mean. I'm not sure why, but they just are, (try hard not to be one of them).
There are a couple of different things you could do. You could tell them that you are only allowed a certain number of friends because your mom said so, make her the bad guy. I'm sure she won't mind.
You could also remind them that you haven't been invited to all of their parties. It's best just to ignore their snotty comments and just ';kill them with kindness';.
Next time, you could just not send out invites and only tell a few of your friends just a few days ahead of time. I found that saved a lot of trouble.
Kill them with kindness but stand your ground. Let them know that as you have matured your selection, or circle, of friends has changed. A prime example would be the way they conducted themselves when they found out about your party. If they start yelling or cussing don't lower yourself to that level, excuse yourself and stroll away.
They'll probably think you're just inviting them because you want them to shut up. If you really want them at your party make up some phony story about how you thought you had enough invitations but you were a few short then give them there invitations. Or better yet, since there being so snotty don't invite them at all:)
Stand up for yourself...and don't let them treat you like that.
Let them know you are having some close friends over and you're entitled to do that...if you explain at all. they are owed no explaination in the first place. Just smile at them and say you're sorry, but maybe next time....If they straighten up their attitude--invite them next time,,if not--don't.
If they are causing that much trouble not being invited..you were right not to invite them.
Ask them to bring something that you don't need but would be nice.
Then if they do show, they will be part of the solution not the problem. If not who cares....
Tell them they are special so that is why you are asking them...if they ask..or you need to talk more.
By asking them to bring something they will feel special too..
Up to you if you want them there.
If you got room...why not..but ask them to bring something you do not need...
*****
In general for any situation,..
life is short..do what you want..but don't fret...
If in doubt DON';T
if you can't decide ---flip a coin.
you should not invite them cause then they are going to take control of you and start to punk you and you dont want that to happen. so what you do is tell them that they are not invited and tell them that i dont hang out with fake people! that is the best way to handle a a problem as a young lady!!
well i would tell them thats its my party and i can invite who i want to. if there your friends then they wouldnt be willing to yell at you because of something like this. i wouldnt invite them if there gonna act like that. there gay and they no it.
I don't think you should. If they were truly interested in being your friend, they would have asked you if they could come. It could be a reaction as well, maybe they missed you, but being humans they lashed out. You could try to talk to them first?
It doesn't sound like they are friends. Friends keep in touch even if they don't see each other. I would simply tell them this party is for my real friends and those are the people who communicate with even when there is no party involved.
Don't invite them!
Tell them that if they are going to act like that then they can not come at all but if they apologize then maybe you should CONSIDER inviting them. I hate when people are like that!
If you feel it will end the fight then invite them but if you think they will get nastier than stay away from them.
Dont invite anyone who is not a friend;there sour grapes over not getting an invite I guess
They used to be friends? Well their attitude confirms it.
Past tense. Bye Bye!
Only invite them if they're bringing Yahtzee.
Don't invite them! Just tell them that they aren't invited.
act as if nothing had happened and dont invite them. best of luck!
Mean friends are not real friends.
MY PARENTS CHOSE FOR ME SRY I'LL INVITE U TO THE NEXT ONE %26amp; ONLY A FEW PEOPLE ARE INVITED!!! WRITE BACK asap
Bang they friend
Get rid of them for good.They never were your friends.
Be strong!!
Let them all go phuqq themselves.
been their done that not going back i wouldnt invite them because they r rude
How do i deal with friends who just love to pick on you until you just don't want break down and cry ?
If you've told them how it affects you and they continue, they're immature and not worth your friendship. Lose them, fast.
How best do you deal with friends that talk a lot of smack but don't ever back it up?Do they do this just so?
they have something to say at the time of conversation but it's entirely insincere? How can this be? Met up with a friend who was complaining about no date for her bday so my guy got one of his single friends on the phone who wanted to meet her %26amp; take her out. She later tells me she's not into dating right now because bad past relationships. Meanwhile, this guy is interested %26amp; left hanging. She is like this always though about everything?How best do you deal with friends that talk a lot of smack but don't ever back it up?Do they do this just so?
She is afraid of committment!!!!! she needs to figure out who she is first before she can even go or think about going on a date...this poor guy is going to go through hell with cuz she doesnt know what the hell she wants...You cant give love or happiness away if you cant find it in yourself first...How best do you deal with friends that talk a lot of smack but don't ever back it up?Do they do this just so?
good choice
Simple, learn to play there own game and smack em right back. If they can't handle it, then they will run like sissies.
ya i know a couple of women like quite imature but its like one of your responses stated.
she needs to figure who she is and what she wants or she willl just make another mess.
by running away.mortgage rate grey hair
She is afraid of committment!!!!! she needs to figure out who she is first before she can even go or think about going on a date...this poor guy is going to go through hell with cuz she doesnt know what the hell she wants...You cant give love or happiness away if you cant find it in yourself first...How best do you deal with friends that talk a lot of smack but don't ever back it up?Do they do this just so?
good choice
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Simple, learn to play there own game and smack em right back. If they can't handle it, then they will run like sissies.
ya i know a couple of women like quite imature but its like one of your responses stated.
she needs to figure who she is and what she wants or she willl just make another mess.
by running away.
How to deal with friends who are always tense ?
and their constant complaining about their spouses ,inlaws or children ,job etc makes you equally tense and frustrated.How to deal with friends who are always tense ?
listen to them, but give them insight. when someone complains about others, its most likely because they're unhappy with themselves, not the people they're complaining about. they shouldn't be too sympathized with, or ignored. They need a friend that doesn't get annoyed, but helps them understand why they're complaining. they someone to help them understand why their spouse, or kids, etc. annoys them, and help them find ways to change it. they'll shut up when someone challenges their reasons.How to deal with friends who are always tense ?
ignore them or simply tell them shut upp
It is better to keep distance from such (Mental Sick) persons. Otherwise you will fall pray to such type of person yourself.
Some people are happy being unhappy. If it is really bothering you just stay away until your in the mood to listen to them.
WITH LOVE AND CARE AND THINK AND PLACE UR SELF TO THEIR LEVEL
Just ignore them or act like your not interested when they tell you or else just say ';Shut the hell up would ya im sick off your complaining';
why dont you just listen to them......just be present at that moment..without judging anything they say sometimes, all we want is to be heard, havent you felt that way ever?.....at the end of the day they are your friends......
i do not know sorry
i myself had gone through this phase.
and my people started calling me ';pareshaan soldier';.
then i realised what i m doing
and changed my patterns
they still call me ';pareshaan soldier'; but in a light manner.
i like it now
The best way is to sit near them and shake your head saying ';yes..... yes.... oh..... is it?..... ok .... ok.... ya... ya....ya'; and give some comments about their talk and they will automatically stop and switch over the topic. At last, say '; you are good dear'; and say bye and come.
Its very simple. When they finish saying it just give them examples of other people who have more problems than her/him. Don't make her understand anything just mention about others and I am sure she will realise it soon than Life is not so bad. May be it can take some time but wasting some time for a friend is better than losing her/him.
ONE WILL DEFINATELY SICK WITH ALL THIS IF FACE THE SAME ON REGURAL BASIS AND U MAY START AVOIDING. IT IS ALWAYS GUD IF U COME ACROSS WITHTHE PERSON BEOFRE HE/SHE START ANY THING U SHOULD START TELLING U R PROBLEM AND ASKED THE SOLUTION OR ASK SOME MONEY AS A LOAN . AND GO TO HIS /HER HOME ON REGURAL BASIS TO ASK THE MONEY OR SOLUTION OF U R PROBLEM. U WILL FEEL THE DIFFERENCE.
SORRY LAST TIME I COULDNOT REPLIED TO UR RIDDLES COS OF LIMITATION TO ANSWER OF QUESTION
first time tell his or him mistake with alone... take care carefully...
teach them so much that they get pareshan and then they wont complain!!!!
everyone has their own share of problem they r sharing their grievience with u coz they considerz u close so be patience n easy while dealing with them
the frnds who r alwaly tense ....... actually they have problems eithr at home or in studies ........always b with them ask their problems.........always try 2 make them happy .......... so that their attention can b diverted ..... and their tenseness should b decreased...............and by shearing problems 2 someone trustable is the most papular way 2 decrease our tenseness..........
You always say to your self and to them ' the sun always shining every morning '
No matter how much we try to insulate ourself from tense situations there is no way we can just shrug friends misery off UNLESS they are not friends ! Only way to keep going is to keep a Cheerful attitude , It rubs off on others just as the misery rubs onto us ! The trick is to not take this tension as real !
listen to them, but give them insight. when someone complains about others, its most likely because they're unhappy with themselves, not the people they're complaining about. they shouldn't be too sympathized with, or ignored. They need a friend that doesn't get annoyed, but helps them understand why they're complaining. they someone to help them understand why their spouse, or kids, etc. annoys them, and help them find ways to change it. they'll shut up when someone challenges their reasons.How to deal with friends who are always tense ?
ignore them or simply tell them shut upp
It is better to keep distance from such (Mental Sick) persons. Otherwise you will fall pray to such type of person yourself.
Some people are happy being unhappy. If it is really bothering you just stay away until your in the mood to listen to them.
WITH LOVE AND CARE AND THINK AND PLACE UR SELF TO THEIR LEVEL
Just ignore them or act like your not interested when they tell you or else just say ';Shut the hell up would ya im sick off your complaining';
why dont you just listen to them......just be present at that moment..without judging anything they say sometimes, all we want is to be heard, havent you felt that way ever?.....at the end of the day they are your friends......
i do not know sorry
i myself had gone through this phase.
and my people started calling me ';pareshaan soldier';.
then i realised what i m doing
and changed my patterns
they still call me ';pareshaan soldier'; but in a light manner.
i like it now
The best way is to sit near them and shake your head saying ';yes..... yes.... oh..... is it?..... ok .... ok.... ya... ya....ya'; and give some comments about their talk and they will automatically stop and switch over the topic. At last, say '; you are good dear'; and say bye and come.
Its very simple. When they finish saying it just give them examples of other people who have more problems than her/him. Don't make her understand anything just mention about others and I am sure she will realise it soon than Life is not so bad. May be it can take some time but wasting some time for a friend is better than losing her/him.
ONE WILL DEFINATELY SICK WITH ALL THIS IF FACE THE SAME ON REGURAL BASIS AND U MAY START AVOIDING. IT IS ALWAYS GUD IF U COME ACROSS WITHTHE PERSON BEOFRE HE/SHE START ANY THING U SHOULD START TELLING U R PROBLEM AND ASKED THE SOLUTION OR ASK SOME MONEY AS A LOAN . AND GO TO HIS /HER HOME ON REGURAL BASIS TO ASK THE MONEY OR SOLUTION OF U R PROBLEM. U WILL FEEL THE DIFFERENCE.
SORRY LAST TIME I COULDNOT REPLIED TO UR RIDDLES COS OF LIMITATION TO ANSWER OF QUESTION
first time tell his or him mistake with alone... take care carefully...
teach them so much that they get pareshan and then they wont complain!!!!
everyone has their own share of problem they r sharing their grievience with u coz they considerz u close so be patience n easy while dealing with them
the frnds who r alwaly tense ....... actually they have problems eithr at home or in studies ........always b with them ask their problems.........always try 2 make them happy .......... so that their attention can b diverted ..... and their tenseness should b decreased...............and by shearing problems 2 someone trustable is the most papular way 2 decrease our tenseness..........
You always say to your self and to them ' the sun always shining every morning '
No matter how much we try to insulate ourself from tense situations there is no way we can just shrug friends misery off UNLESS they are not friends ! Only way to keep going is to keep a Cheerful attitude , It rubs off on others just as the misery rubs onto us ! The trick is to not take this tension as real !
How do I get a tan and deal with my friends?
Ok so I've tried tanning and I just burn. I've tried tanning lotions and they don't work. My friends make fun of me and another one of my friends for being too white and we get kinda insulted-WE CAN'T ALL BE TAN!!-and they don't care. I wan't to get tanner but i don't know how. At pool parties it's really weird PLEASE HELP!!How do I get a tan and deal with my friends?
u could try a spray-on tan bcuz u dont need sun exposure. ive never done one of those before so i cant verify that they look natural. ive heard they are getting better but ppl still can come out orange. so if u'd rather be orange than white then go ahead, if not u could try it once and see how it comes out. let ur friends have it! tell them theyre being jackasses and need to stop insulting u bcuz how would u like it if u found something unattractive about them and kept saying so. i hate how ppl make fun of pale ppl (i can relate!) and dont get their teeth punched out.How do I get a tan and deal with my friends?
there nt very gud friends then are they!?
best of luck.my wishes to ya!
get a spray tan!
Try a tanning salon.
wow nice friends lol......if u swim in the pool a lot u get tanned b/c it reflexs off the water...
for your friends just act like you dont care theyll eventually stop because they get no satisfaction out of it
or you could always get a spray tan or use bronzer
you could spray tan.
or go to a tanning bed!
spray tanning is waaaay better tho.
:]
I have the same problem and i used to go mystic and when people would ask me ';what level'; or such i made it up because i was embarrassed to have a spray tan. Gradual Tanner is nice too because if it streaks its not too noticable. Lately ive been finding i get a nice glow if i go to a good tanning salon and use the right kind of moisterizes. I have Blaque -thats the name of it- and it does me wonders. You can find them on ebay for a whole lot cheaper than in the salons
hey girl, yeah Same problem
everyone makes comments about how white I am .
This summer my goal is super tan, I pretty much use tanning oil (banana boat dark tan) and just go to the pool everyday.
tannin spray
tannin salon
go swimmin alot
get plenty of sun
%26amp;%26amp; dont forget yur suncreen
u could try a spray-on tan bcuz u dont need sun exposure. ive never done one of those before so i cant verify that they look natural. ive heard they are getting better but ppl still can come out orange. so if u'd rather be orange than white then go ahead, if not u could try it once and see how it comes out. let ur friends have it! tell them theyre being jackasses and need to stop insulting u bcuz how would u like it if u found something unattractive about them and kept saying so. i hate how ppl make fun of pale ppl (i can relate!) and dont get their teeth punched out.How do I get a tan and deal with my friends?
there nt very gud friends then are they!?
best of luck.my wishes to ya!
get a spray tan!
Try a tanning salon.
wow nice friends lol......if u swim in the pool a lot u get tanned b/c it reflexs off the water...
for your friends just act like you dont care theyll eventually stop because they get no satisfaction out of it
or you could always get a spray tan or use bronzer
you could spray tan.
or go to a tanning bed!
spray tanning is waaaay better tho.
:]
I have the same problem and i used to go mystic and when people would ask me ';what level'; or such i made it up because i was embarrassed to have a spray tan. Gradual Tanner is nice too because if it streaks its not too noticable. Lately ive been finding i get a nice glow if i go to a good tanning salon and use the right kind of moisterizes. I have Blaque -thats the name of it- and it does me wonders. You can find them on ebay for a whole lot cheaper than in the salons
hey girl, yeah Same problem
everyone makes comments about how white I am .
This summer my goal is super tan, I pretty much use tanning oil (banana boat dark tan) and just go to the pool everyday.
tannin spray
tannin salon
go swimmin alot
get plenty of sun
%26amp;%26amp; dont forget yur suncreen
How should I deal with 2 friends?
I have two friends from marching band and they started dating about five months ago. They are about two years apart in age, she is older. I found out this week from his best friend that he has been flirting with other girls to the point where it would be considered cheating. My problem is, I don't know how to confront either one without losing at least one friendship. I don't want her to find out the hard way, and I don't want the guy to get caught the hard way. How should I confront either one of them about it?How should I deal with 2 friends?
I would go to the boy first and ';question'; him about it. don't accuse, just question. let him know that (if its happening) that if it continues and he isn't honest with her, you'd have to tell her.How should I deal with 2 friends?
that dude's cool
don't do either.if you have to ask on yahoo youre already a crappy friend.it shouldnt be that hard of a choice
I would go to the boy first and ';question'; him about it. don't accuse, just question. let him know that (if its happening) that if it continues and he isn't honest with her, you'd have to tell her.How should I deal with 2 friends?
that dude's cool
don't do either.if you have to ask on yahoo youre already a crappy friend.it shouldnt be that hard of a choice
How does one deal with a homophobic parent?
My ex gf and I had to break up due to her mother being so homophobic. She said that her daughter was going through a phase and blah blah, etc. The point is that she made us break it off and she said that under her roof her daughter would not be getting herself involved in that sort of stuff because it's disgusting..... So how does my friend deal with mother being like that? And how do I deal with the outsider, or ';being the one that made her daughter that way.';How does one deal with a homophobic parent?
I hate to say it, but the only thing you can really do is ignore it. I wish it wasn't that way. A lot of adults who are homophobic refuse to change their mind. Nothing you can say or do can convince them otherwise. Not everyone, but this woman sounds like one of those people who won't change. I guess the best you can do is be the bigger person and accept her the way she is, just like you want her to accept the way you are.How does one deal with a homophobic parent?
For myself, it was much easier once I moved out of my parents house. Basically what I said to my mother was that I am a person too....regardless of my sexual attraction......and if she cannot continue to respect me as a person....never mind as her daughter .....then I didnt wish to speak with her until she could come to terms with herself. Sorry to say I have not spoken to her in 10 years. But the point is......she should not allow ANYONE including her mother to dictate to her how she lives her life.......as long as she is happy her mother should back off....isnt that what we, as mothers want for our kids? Good luck to you and your friend.
actually, my mom disowned me for being a lesbian. I don't talk to her, and I hope that one day she can accept me for who I am. In your case if she dosen't accept her daughter, tell her to stop communicating with her mom, maybe then she will understand. It takes time.
I don't know how old you and your gf are but as you go thru this long journey of knowing yourself and accepting your lifestyle..you must know that you cannot live your life according to other's beliefs. If your gf is underage then yes she has to accept her mother's demands right now unless she wants to break away from the family. I went through that as a teen. I had to stay the course with my family. Once I was old enough to leave home I just lived my life and for once, they had to accept. Those that didn't I just don't have anything to do with them. I am now 53 and wonderfully in love and hope to spend the rest of my life with my partner..be damned my family!
The mother sounds set in her ways, at least for now. Your ex will eventually be able to move out of the house, and sometime down the line, her mom will see that it's not a phase.
If your ex is an adult, nobody can make her break it off. All they can do is disapprove and threaten to take away things she needs (like money for college, place to live, etc), so the best route is to find a way to get these things on her own so that nobody can manipulate her in this way.
You did no such thing! You can see her outside the home you had to meet somewhere? School etc?
It is ridiculous to even think that a person ';made'; her this way! God made her this way, God doesn't make junk right?
My poor son is going through this with his father. He is scared to death to tell him and this makes me sick......me and his father were never married, our views are so different (his father tries real hard to makes everyone think he is the true son of God and doesn't believe in such things). Its all horse pucky!
Until she moves out of her mothers house she has to obey her mothers rules. Of course this is doing nothing for there realationship....
When my son first told me I admit I was taken back, I mean he has had G/F I thought? Good looking kid he always had the girls following him around and wanting to hang out with him .....I also thought well maybe this is a faze, well if it is one he sure has stuck to it longer then any other faze lol!
It may take her mother some time to let it soak in....give her mother time....
Wish you well and do not fret all things pass in time.....
If you are a Homo, no matter HOW much satisfaction you derive from telling people about how gay you are, how far along you are, or how much you enjoy takin' it in your back door, simply avoid bringing all of this to the attention of your parents........ at least until you move out of your parent's house.
After that, you can smoke some guy right in front of em' if you want to.
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I hate to say it, but the only thing you can really do is ignore it. I wish it wasn't that way. A lot of adults who are homophobic refuse to change their mind. Nothing you can say or do can convince them otherwise. Not everyone, but this woman sounds like one of those people who won't change. I guess the best you can do is be the bigger person and accept her the way she is, just like you want her to accept the way you are.How does one deal with a homophobic parent?
For myself, it was much easier once I moved out of my parents house. Basically what I said to my mother was that I am a person too....regardless of my sexual attraction......and if she cannot continue to respect me as a person....never mind as her daughter .....then I didnt wish to speak with her until she could come to terms with herself. Sorry to say I have not spoken to her in 10 years. But the point is......she should not allow ANYONE including her mother to dictate to her how she lives her life.......as long as she is happy her mother should back off....isnt that what we, as mothers want for our kids? Good luck to you and your friend.
actually, my mom disowned me for being a lesbian. I don't talk to her, and I hope that one day she can accept me for who I am. In your case if she dosen't accept her daughter, tell her to stop communicating with her mom, maybe then she will understand. It takes time.
I don't know how old you and your gf are but as you go thru this long journey of knowing yourself and accepting your lifestyle..you must know that you cannot live your life according to other's beliefs. If your gf is underage then yes she has to accept her mother's demands right now unless she wants to break away from the family. I went through that as a teen. I had to stay the course with my family. Once I was old enough to leave home I just lived my life and for once, they had to accept. Those that didn't I just don't have anything to do with them. I am now 53 and wonderfully in love and hope to spend the rest of my life with my partner..be damned my family!
The mother sounds set in her ways, at least for now. Your ex will eventually be able to move out of the house, and sometime down the line, her mom will see that it's not a phase.
If your ex is an adult, nobody can make her break it off. All they can do is disapprove and threaten to take away things she needs (like money for college, place to live, etc), so the best route is to find a way to get these things on her own so that nobody can manipulate her in this way.
You did no such thing! You can see her outside the home you had to meet somewhere? School etc?
It is ridiculous to even think that a person ';made'; her this way! God made her this way, God doesn't make junk right?
My poor son is going through this with his father. He is scared to death to tell him and this makes me sick......me and his father were never married, our views are so different (his father tries real hard to makes everyone think he is the true son of God and doesn't believe in such things). Its all horse pucky!
Until she moves out of her mothers house she has to obey her mothers rules. Of course this is doing nothing for there realationship....
When my son first told me I admit I was taken back, I mean he has had G/F I thought? Good looking kid he always had the girls following him around and wanting to hang out with him .....I also thought well maybe this is a faze, well if it is one he sure has stuck to it longer then any other faze lol!
It may take her mother some time to let it soak in....give her mother time....
Wish you well and do not fret all things pass in time.....
If you are a Homo, no matter HOW much satisfaction you derive from telling people about how gay you are, how far along you are, or how much you enjoy takin' it in your back door, simply avoid bringing all of this to the attention of your parents........ at least until you move out of your parent's house.
After that, you can smoke some guy right in front of em' if you want to.
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How do i deal with my friends?
I have some friends who all ways criticize me because of the type of church i attend. They say that i am crazy for attending a church that shouts and speaks in tongues. they also criticize me because i am very involved in church by that i mean i go to all of the revivals, convocations, meetings, etc. I go every sunday and they think that i believe that i am higher than they are but i dnt believe that all i just love God and fellow shipping with fellow christians. How do i deal with these friends?How do i deal with my friends?
Ask them if the God they believe in grants the freedom of each person to worship according to the dictates of his conscience.How do i deal with my friends?
Go to a Sabbath keeping church. The messiah taught in the synagogues on the Sabbath not Sunday and he did not ignore the Sabbath commandment either.
You need to decide if your real friends are more important than your imaginary ones.
Hey, if you are having so much trouble with them, get some new friends. Freinds from church who understand where you are coming from.
A lot of people always make fun of Christians. Don't listen to them, just keep going your path. You are heading the right way. If they make fun of you, just let them know that you are getting saved!!
You will always have people who treat you that way as long as you remain faithful. You cannot avoid people who treat you that way. It comes with being Christian.
The best thing you can do is show them love. Show them that you're having fun. Show them that you're growing as a person because of your faith. Show them that your choice to believe is no reflection on them. Don't be snobby or defensive, just smile and let them know that you're having a great time at Church and you feel great. If they don't respect that, then they're not being good friend. But you're not being a good friend to them if you get arrogant and defensive about your church.
That is unfortunate that your friends feel that way. I go to a church that sounds quite similar and have had some weird criticisms as well. All you can do is make sure that you remain humble and just continue to make sure that you try to maintain those friendships as much as possible and keep doing what you feel is right.
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You should tell them to respect your choices, because that's what good friends do. If they keep criticizing you, obviously they are bad influences for you. Find new good friends, there are many people out there who would like to have a friend like you, you seem very sweet.
I think that your friends are onto something. You might want to give them a better listen.
the Bible says ';..You will be hated for My name...';
well, maybe yours is not to that extent, but i think you can't fully please God and your friends at the same time. just tell them you really enjoy it and its not your earnings of being involved.. you need it because it fullfills you
Maybe they are sort of jealous of how full of joy you seem to be all the time and they are really sad most of the time and don't understand why. Jesus said that folks hated Him, and that they would hate us, too, so it doesn't really bother me. If you must, just drift apart from these fair weather friends and make friends with some of those in your age group in your church. Good luck and God bless, you are on the right track.
I'm betting they get the opinion that you are better than them because you pass that opinion off via your acts or statements. Do you criticize them for their beliefs or how they practice or don't practice their religion? Religion is a personal choice; they should respect your right to believe as you choose but at the same time if you are not respecting their right to believe as they choose, or espousing your religious beliefs in a way that projects your perceived superiority over them or their religion then you reap what you sow. Why not just ask next time someone criticize you, and find out why they are doing that? If in fact you are doing nothing to foster this criticism then simply tell them they aren't good friends if they don't respect your right to believe as you choose and you don't appreciate their statements.
Ask them if the God they believe in grants the freedom of each person to worship according to the dictates of his conscience.How do i deal with my friends?
Go to a Sabbath keeping church. The messiah taught in the synagogues on the Sabbath not Sunday and he did not ignore the Sabbath commandment either.
You need to decide if your real friends are more important than your imaginary ones.
Hey, if you are having so much trouble with them, get some new friends. Freinds from church who understand where you are coming from.
A lot of people always make fun of Christians. Don't listen to them, just keep going your path. You are heading the right way. If they make fun of you, just let them know that you are getting saved!!
You will always have people who treat you that way as long as you remain faithful. You cannot avoid people who treat you that way. It comes with being Christian.
The best thing you can do is show them love. Show them that you're having fun. Show them that you're growing as a person because of your faith. Show them that your choice to believe is no reflection on them. Don't be snobby or defensive, just smile and let them know that you're having a great time at Church and you feel great. If they don't respect that, then they're not being good friend. But you're not being a good friend to them if you get arrogant and defensive about your church.
That is unfortunate that your friends feel that way. I go to a church that sounds quite similar and have had some weird criticisms as well. All you can do is make sure that you remain humble and just continue to make sure that you try to maintain those friendships as much as possible and keep doing what you feel is right.
http://darcylbell.blogspot.com/
You should tell them to respect your choices, because that's what good friends do. If they keep criticizing you, obviously they are bad influences for you. Find new good friends, there are many people out there who would like to have a friend like you, you seem very sweet.
I think that your friends are onto something. You might want to give them a better listen.
the Bible says ';..You will be hated for My name...';
well, maybe yours is not to that extent, but i think you can't fully please God and your friends at the same time. just tell them you really enjoy it and its not your earnings of being involved.. you need it because it fullfills you
Maybe they are sort of jealous of how full of joy you seem to be all the time and they are really sad most of the time and don't understand why. Jesus said that folks hated Him, and that they would hate us, too, so it doesn't really bother me. If you must, just drift apart from these fair weather friends and make friends with some of those in your age group in your church. Good luck and God bless, you are on the right track.
I'm betting they get the opinion that you are better than them because you pass that opinion off via your acts or statements. Do you criticize them for their beliefs or how they practice or don't practice their religion? Religion is a personal choice; they should respect your right to believe as you choose but at the same time if you are not respecting their right to believe as they choose, or espousing your religious beliefs in a way that projects your perceived superiority over them or their religion then you reap what you sow. Why not just ask next time someone criticize you, and find out why they are doing that? If in fact you are doing nothing to foster this criticism then simply tell them they aren't good friends if they don't respect your right to believe as you choose and you don't appreciate their statements.
How to deal with friends?
if a friend of our no longer wants to be our friend but we still want a friendship between us and our friend doesn't understand us what do we do?like:i always pleased her if anything was wrong just tell me,i can improve it,but don't keep quiet all day like this!but she don't answer.im a person kinda shy and when something bad happens im always shaking lol.pls i need help!How to deal with friends?
Your just trying to be a goof friend just talk to her and see whats up it will be okayHow to deal with friends?
It sounds like you're prepared for being the good friend, but it looks like your friend wont do anything to either keep or junk your relationship. If you really still wanna be her friend, keep being nice. Don't be scared and shaky, be fearless. It's her loss if she doesn't wanna work anything out, at least you try, rite? If she doesn't understand you, and you're trying to please her, then it's not a very good friendship. Keep being nice for a little while more, and then if nothing happens or she blows up on you, you don't really need her as a friend. Just leave her alone, let her be.
PS- Sorry if I misinterpreted your situation or misunderstood the character of your friend.
Obviously she doesn't care about your feelings.
That's not the kind of friends you are looking for.
When talking about friends, it's not the quantity that matters but the quality: you want to have friends who care about you, respect you, and who you can count on when you're in trouble or going through a tough time.
And you cannot force her to be someone who she is not. So I think the best thing is to let her go
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Friends and friendship, we all need to understand both at times. Their degrees differ so does your level of compatibility with your friends. And we all tend to misunderstand what they actually say or want from us or want us to do. In such cases, you need to leave to time and give each other some space. May be your friend doesn't really want to discuss her problems with you, may be she's the kind who would like to solve it herself. So let it be. Don't stress yourself over that. While we understand that friendship does mean sharing of moments, good and bad, there may be times, when we need to deal with it alone. Your friend may be still looking forward to your friendship. Your presence will give her a boost in dealing with her problems. Good luck and wish you an eternal friendship with your friend! Take care and good luck!
Friends are like birds, let them fly freely and let them think about the friendship. You can sometimes only wait behind the curtains waiting for that right cue. Give that friend time and space, either it works or life goes on.
from my point of view,
friends like that dont appreciate a friend like u, so its just a waste to keep her satisfied if she doesnt care how u're feeling,so just talk to her,if she still doesnt talk to ya,just ignore her,there no use if u still try to please her while she still playing dont care at ya,.u still can find a better one than that,u wont die if u leave hermortgage rate interest rate
Your just trying to be a goof friend just talk to her and see whats up it will be okayHow to deal with friends?
It sounds like you're prepared for being the good friend, but it looks like your friend wont do anything to either keep or junk your relationship. If you really still wanna be her friend, keep being nice. Don't be scared and shaky, be fearless. It's her loss if she doesn't wanna work anything out, at least you try, rite? If she doesn't understand you, and you're trying to please her, then it's not a very good friendship. Keep being nice for a little while more, and then if nothing happens or she blows up on you, you don't really need her as a friend. Just leave her alone, let her be.
PS- Sorry if I misinterpreted your situation or misunderstood the character of your friend.
Obviously she doesn't care about your feelings.
That's not the kind of friends you are looking for.
When talking about friends, it's not the quantity that matters but the quality: you want to have friends who care about you, respect you, and who you can count on when you're in trouble or going through a tough time.
And you cannot force her to be someone who she is not. So I think the best thing is to let her go
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Friends and friendship, we all need to understand both at times. Their degrees differ so does your level of compatibility with your friends. And we all tend to misunderstand what they actually say or want from us or want us to do. In such cases, you need to leave to time and give each other some space. May be your friend doesn't really want to discuss her problems with you, may be she's the kind who would like to solve it herself. So let it be. Don't stress yourself over that. While we understand that friendship does mean sharing of moments, good and bad, there may be times, when we need to deal with it alone. Your friend may be still looking forward to your friendship. Your presence will give her a boost in dealing with her problems. Good luck and wish you an eternal friendship with your friend! Take care and good luck!
Friends are like birds, let them fly freely and let them think about the friendship. You can sometimes only wait behind the curtains waiting for that right cue. Give that friend time and space, either it works or life goes on.
from my point of view,
friends like that dont appreciate a friend like u, so its just a waste to keep her satisfied if she doesnt care how u're feeling,so just talk to her,if she still doesnt talk to ya,just ignore her,there no use if u still try to please her while she still playing dont care at ya,.u still can find a better one than that,u wont die if u leave her
How do you deal with your friends very rude children who are younger than 10?
One of my best friends has a 7 year old daughter and 9 year old son. they can both be very rude to me, say very rude things about me and to me. I want to know what is the best way to handle these situations without hurting my friend or the kids. The 9 year old boy is especially rude, and it has become increasly frustrating to me. Help!How do you deal with your friends very rude children who are younger than 10?
avoidance is really the BEST alternative.How do you deal with your friends very rude children who are younger than 10?
Maybe you should not ask how to handle them, you should find out what causes this. The two kids can't possibly blabber out things together. Maybe you had unintentionally offended them? In a way you took their sweets or something and they are no happy etc. Or one sad thing is, because your best friend is not happy with you sometimes, and he badmouth infront of his kids, and then the kids think you are a baddie thats why they scold you. =[
You need to talk to your friend about the children and not in front of the children. Let the parent know they are hurting your feelings and you would like them to be more respectful in your home. You would not want your own children thinking it is okay to be rude.
make those kids respect u. tell them u don't appreciate their disrespect. if the mom is not saying anything to them, then u will need to stand up for yourself. if she gets mad because u got mad that her kids are rude to u, then she is not a friend.
One of my favorite responses is: That was inappropriate. If it continues tell them to stop, that whatever it is that they are saying is hurting your feelings and you don't appreciate it. Most kids will back down...if they don't then I would look directly at them, tell them that you think they are being rude and that you won't put up with it anymore and leave. Then (privately at another time or later on) you tell your friend that you would love to spend time with him/her but without the children around. I would hope that any sane parent could see that their children are being rude and put a stop to it. Good luck!
Well threre just little and i have a friend whos little sister is supe rude to me well just dont let someone who is younger than you take charge. Dont take it to the heart, laugh and say your funny or yeaa i amm your right or whatever...sho him/her whos boss and dont let it get to you sooner or later he or she will finally give up
LOL...I know what you're talking about. If she's your friend then she'll know you're not being mean. Most of the time, they KNOW that their kids are rude. And tell her she needs to talk to them.
But a 7 and 9 year old are old enough for you to talk to them too. In a nice way. Just say to them that their behaviour is not nice and you don't appreciate it and they should show you respect as an older person to them.
When they say that to you, you can reply with ';Wow, that's very rude to ask/say. Perhaps it would be better if you asked/said this instead.';
This way, you are:
1. Non-violent
2. Non-threatening to mom
3. Showing him how he SHOULD act, instead of belittling him on how he shouldn't.
If their mother gets uncomfy with that, then tough. You deserve respect from your friends, as well as your friend's children. If you don't speak up, your friend may think you accept that type of behavior and will see no need to change.
It is possible to set expectations and boundaries with someone else's kids. You may say something like, ';I'm an adult,and I wish that you speak to me respectfully.'; Call them on it every time they don't. Frankly, you're doing the kids a favor to insist on appropriate treatment . If their parents could command this kind of respect, they probably would. If they don't like your expectations, they might express some of their own, or the friendship might end. No great loss, in my opinion.
You know it's funny you ask this question. One of my best friends son is 6 yrs. old and so is my son. They are 9 months apart. He runs over her no problem. However, when he comes to my house and starts calling her names, or disrespects me....I call him on it. I don't yell. I change the tone of my voice, look him in the eyes and tell him to knock his crap off and not to be doing it in my house. If he wants to be a butt around me I can find many cures. I've even scrapped soap on his teeth. One thing is for sure...You need to be strong and don't take their crap. Also, don't speak to them like a baby. They are trying to act grown-up and see how far they can push it.
If your friend says something to you about it. Be straight-up...The truth hurts, but she needs to open her eyes.
Good Luck!
Tell them that they are not allowed over to your home. If they are rude to you explain to their parents that you do not find their behavior acceptable and you would appreciate it if she would work with them.
Speak to him like a child. You're the elder. Simply say that he's being rude and shouldn't speak to adults that way. Don't yell, don't snap, just say it calmly and plainly. Your friend will probably chime in and tell her children to obey you.
After thinking about this, maybe it's time to speak to your friend and bring up your concerns about their behavior. Rude behavior does have negative consequences. Since these kids are kids, their behavior can be changed. Any idea what brings on the rude behavior? Are they upset? I would continue asking questions and trying to find possible answers. Maybe you can just be a positive influence. I wouldn't take anything they say to heart because they are kids and don't realize what they are doing.
avoidance is really the BEST alternative.How do you deal with your friends very rude children who are younger than 10?
Maybe you should not ask how to handle them, you should find out what causes this. The two kids can't possibly blabber out things together. Maybe you had unintentionally offended them? In a way you took their sweets or something and they are no happy etc. Or one sad thing is, because your best friend is not happy with you sometimes, and he badmouth infront of his kids, and then the kids think you are a baddie thats why they scold you. =[
You need to talk to your friend about the children and not in front of the children. Let the parent know they are hurting your feelings and you would like them to be more respectful in your home. You would not want your own children thinking it is okay to be rude.
make those kids respect u. tell them u don't appreciate their disrespect. if the mom is not saying anything to them, then u will need to stand up for yourself. if she gets mad because u got mad that her kids are rude to u, then she is not a friend.
One of my favorite responses is: That was inappropriate. If it continues tell them to stop, that whatever it is that they are saying is hurting your feelings and you don't appreciate it. Most kids will back down...if they don't then I would look directly at them, tell them that you think they are being rude and that you won't put up with it anymore and leave. Then (privately at another time or later on) you tell your friend that you would love to spend time with him/her but without the children around. I would hope that any sane parent could see that their children are being rude and put a stop to it. Good luck!
Well threre just little and i have a friend whos little sister is supe rude to me well just dont let someone who is younger than you take charge. Dont take it to the heart, laugh and say your funny or yeaa i amm your right or whatever...sho him/her whos boss and dont let it get to you sooner or later he or she will finally give up
LOL...I know what you're talking about. If she's your friend then she'll know you're not being mean. Most of the time, they KNOW that their kids are rude. And tell her she needs to talk to them.
But a 7 and 9 year old are old enough for you to talk to them too. In a nice way. Just say to them that their behaviour is not nice and you don't appreciate it and they should show you respect as an older person to them.
When they say that to you, you can reply with ';Wow, that's very rude to ask/say. Perhaps it would be better if you asked/said this instead.';
This way, you are:
1. Non-violent
2. Non-threatening to mom
3. Showing him how he SHOULD act, instead of belittling him on how he shouldn't.
If their mother gets uncomfy with that, then tough. You deserve respect from your friends, as well as your friend's children. If you don't speak up, your friend may think you accept that type of behavior and will see no need to change.
It is possible to set expectations and boundaries with someone else's kids. You may say something like, ';I'm an adult,and I wish that you speak to me respectfully.'; Call them on it every time they don't. Frankly, you're doing the kids a favor to insist on appropriate treatment . If their parents could command this kind of respect, they probably would. If they don't like your expectations, they might express some of their own, or the friendship might end. No great loss, in my opinion.
You know it's funny you ask this question. One of my best friends son is 6 yrs. old and so is my son. They are 9 months apart. He runs over her no problem. However, when he comes to my house and starts calling her names, or disrespects me....I call him on it. I don't yell. I change the tone of my voice, look him in the eyes and tell him to knock his crap off and not to be doing it in my house. If he wants to be a butt around me I can find many cures. I've even scrapped soap on his teeth. One thing is for sure...You need to be strong and don't take their crap. Also, don't speak to them like a baby. They are trying to act grown-up and see how far they can push it.
If your friend says something to you about it. Be straight-up...The truth hurts, but she needs to open her eyes.
Good Luck!
Tell them that they are not allowed over to your home. If they are rude to you explain to their parents that you do not find their behavior acceptable and you would appreciate it if she would work with them.
Speak to him like a child. You're the elder. Simply say that he's being rude and shouldn't speak to adults that way. Don't yell, don't snap, just say it calmly and plainly. Your friend will probably chime in and tell her children to obey you.
After thinking about this, maybe it's time to speak to your friend and bring up your concerns about their behavior. Rude behavior does have negative consequences. Since these kids are kids, their behavior can be changed. Any idea what brings on the rude behavior? Are they upset? I would continue asking questions and trying to find possible answers. Maybe you can just be a positive influence. I wouldn't take anything they say to heart because they are kids and don't realize what they are doing.
How To Deal With Friends?
I have three freinds. One of them is really loserish. I don't want to classify people but it is pretty obvious. She wears sloppy clothes, and even though I am nice to her most of the time, she always has to put me down for her to feel even slightly good. Even if she says ';Just Kidding'; I still feel bad. She never thinks she has to say sorry ever, even if she did something wrong. I want to make other friends, but I feel like I can't - especilly when she is nagging me all the time. How do I get rid of her? Should I? How do I make new friends without seeming too e-a-g-e-r?How To Deal With Friends?
Wow, well i actually have a friend who puts everyone down all the time and he isnt so perfect. he thinks he is so ';higher'; than some people... well what i would say you do is, not in a bad way advice but, try to ignore them in some way, like just say ';oh actually i am kind of busy';, and just see new people. Ignore, thats simply it. if she does that to you, just say your not to perfect yourself or something, just say for example even if she talks about your shoes or something just say, ';you know at least i have shoes because alot of people around the world would be even happy to have some, try making new friends at school or chatting.... you can get back at her in a good way, she probly just has so much low self esteem. im sorry i dont know if it will help, but hopefully it does, Hey one thing for sure, that will help.......ask GOD for new friends and in time, TRUST ME, he will get you even more better friends. only in time ok, be patient....hope this helps...
take care....love a girl named: serinaHow To Deal With Friends?
Just tell her you no longer want to be friends with her because you don't like the way she treats you
just dont sit with her at lunch and dont talk to her maybe u should to do her wut she does to u.....let her know wut it feels like!
Hey just tell her how U feel she, revenge, she will feel bad and keep away and maybe she will say sorry and change, or she wont say sorry and never talk to u she will leave u alone and u can get more friends!!!
I meen if she treats you that way just kick her out of your life and meet new people.make new freinds.
things happen like that ...i had a friend like that the thing was she was always around nag nag nag right... so i told her ';you respect me or dont be my friend at all'; and she started to respect me more and more..what i think you should do is comfront her and tell her whats on your mind and if she doesnt listen dont talk to her ever again...one more things friends come to you you never come to them so youll find someone that really wants to be your friend...
If she puts you down,correct het and tell her that you will no longer be her friend if she can't respect you.She is not a loser because of the way she dresses,that only signifies that she is a slob.She apparently has some self-esteem issues that causes her to feel that she has to make others feel badly in order to make herself feel good.If you talk to her about it and nothing changes,there is nothing wrong with ceasing communication with her on all levels.If she talks to you ignore her,she will eventually get the message that you won't put up with her crap anymore.New friends are easily made.If you want friends you have to first make yourself friendly.
You need to just let her go. Try to tell her in a good way about how you feel. If that doesn't work then just tell her striaght up how you feel. It's better to get it all out and over with. You make new friends by starting a conversation. Like talk about something that interest them. Find out stuff about them.
Obviously you are the support of a ';loser';. Best thing you can do is talk to her about it. Tell her how you feel and that you really think she is wrong. As to be too eager about making friends dont' try and fit in or try to join a group, this will only make you seem like a ';new'; person, instead make people want to be with you. This can be accomplished by inviting people who have the same interest with you too places you both like, in all this your friend can tag along. Hope it helps
Wow, well i actually have a friend who puts everyone down all the time and he isnt so perfect. he thinks he is so ';higher'; than some people... well what i would say you do is, not in a bad way advice but, try to ignore them in some way, like just say ';oh actually i am kind of busy';, and just see new people. Ignore, thats simply it. if she does that to you, just say your not to perfect yourself or something, just say for example even if she talks about your shoes or something just say, ';you know at least i have shoes because alot of people around the world would be even happy to have some, try making new friends at school or chatting.... you can get back at her in a good way, she probly just has so much low self esteem. im sorry i dont know if it will help, but hopefully it does, Hey one thing for sure, that will help.......ask GOD for new friends and in time, TRUST ME, he will get you even more better friends. only in time ok, be patient....hope this helps...
take care....love a girl named: serinaHow To Deal With Friends?
Just tell her you no longer want to be friends with her because you don't like the way she treats you
just dont sit with her at lunch and dont talk to her maybe u should to do her wut she does to u.....let her know wut it feels like!
Hey just tell her how U feel she, revenge, she will feel bad and keep away and maybe she will say sorry and change, or she wont say sorry and never talk to u she will leave u alone and u can get more friends!!!
I meen if she treats you that way just kick her out of your life and meet new people.make new freinds.
things happen like that ...i had a friend like that the thing was she was always around nag nag nag right... so i told her ';you respect me or dont be my friend at all'; and she started to respect me more and more..what i think you should do is comfront her and tell her whats on your mind and if she doesnt listen dont talk to her ever again...one more things friends come to you you never come to them so youll find someone that really wants to be your friend...
If she puts you down,correct het and tell her that you will no longer be her friend if she can't respect you.She is not a loser because of the way she dresses,that only signifies that she is a slob.She apparently has some self-esteem issues that causes her to feel that she has to make others feel badly in order to make herself feel good.If you talk to her about it and nothing changes,there is nothing wrong with ceasing communication with her on all levels.If she talks to you ignore her,she will eventually get the message that you won't put up with her crap anymore.New friends are easily made.If you want friends you have to first make yourself friendly.
You need to just let her go. Try to tell her in a good way about how you feel. If that doesn't work then just tell her striaght up how you feel. It's better to get it all out and over with. You make new friends by starting a conversation. Like talk about something that interest them. Find out stuff about them.
Obviously you are the support of a ';loser';. Best thing you can do is talk to her about it. Tell her how you feel and that you really think she is wrong. As to be too eager about making friends dont' try and fit in or try to join a group, this will only make you seem like a ';new'; person, instead make people want to be with you. This can be accomplished by inviting people who have the same interest with you too places you both like, in all this your friend can tag along. Hope it helps
How do you deal with selfish Friends?
Some times i wonder why we even call people our friend when they are far from it. Friends are supposed to share and be kind right? shouldnt for friends treat you the way you treat them? How do you deal with selfish Friends?
Yes, Friends can share everything if they want to but they don't have to.
.....it depends if your always asking them for there stuff then maybe they won't want to share everything with you.
.....and if this person seems far from being a friend then that isn't a friend.How do you deal with selfish Friends?
Friends are suppose to be kind and share. 2p
Yes, Friends can share everything if they want to but they don't have to.
.....it depends if your always asking them for there stuff then maybe they won't want to share everything with you.
.....and if this person seems far from being a friend then that isn't a friend.How do you deal with selfish Friends?
Friends are suppose to be kind and share. 2p
How do I deal with my friend, she got pregnant on purpose because of her friends and is selfish and immature?
My friend has been with her husband for a total of 2 years, and has been miserable since day one. In fact 3 months ago she asked him officially for a divorce but changed her mind because her ';vows before God.';
She is 24 and found out me and her other good friend are pregnant. She was very jealous and said she wanted a baby too. So she purposely got pregnant even though her marriage is rocky at best.
I am so frustrated with her and her selfish actions. I almost want to cut her off! She causes so many problems in her own life by being an immature brat and it stresses me out to hear about it all of the time.
Should I just distance myself from her? She told me she plans to take her baby with her to house parties and bars so they can drink with their friends.
I just don鈥檛 agree with her lifestyle or parenting skills. My husband refuses to hang out with them because of all their problems and fighting.
Is it time for me to move on from the friendship?How do I deal with my friend, she got pregnant on purpose because of her friends and is selfish and immature?
I'd say it's time for you to move onHow do I deal with my friend, she got pregnant on purpose because of her friends and is selfish and immature?
Who gives a toss about god - this is why America are so brainwashed nowadays. God dont fu c k i ng exist!
don't put yourself through that stress. shes a bit rediculous, and there is no reason to stay friends or even aquantinces w/ someone if they are going to act childish.
You already know the answer to your question.
But if you are still not sure, ask yourself this, Do I want to hang around with a shallow person?
I feel so sorry for your friends baby, what a nightmare.
Just start being unavailable and eventually she will move on. You don't have to actually tell her you are not friends anymore, just don't call her and meet with her.
If she calls don't answer the phone and don't return messages.
If you want to give her sound advice tell her that marriage takes alot of work on the part of both people and having a baby is a huge responsibility, there will be no partying, me time or anything of the sort - life as you know it dies when you have a child - and you are reborn as a new person, at the birth you become a Mom.
tell her to go to counseling. get rid of her as a friend. she is not a good friend for anyone in life, she is psycho at best. only desperate disgusting people do that and to affect her unborn child is what is the worst part. counseling is good for her, although I don't think anyone will change the way she is. move on
I would because she will just end up bring you and your family down with her. Pray for that poor baby that before its born, she will grow up some and give the baby a chance at a good life. Good luck and congrats on your baby.
Ask yourself this very important question: Will you be losing anything crucial to your survival if you cut ties? Or will you be gaining your own self-respect and happiness back? Some people cannot and will not change. If you choose to be her friend through all her careless ways, are you ready to lose yourself in the bargain? Perhaps the only way you can be a good friend in this situation is to not be her friend, so that she understands you are against her immaturity and possibly dangerous and negligent parenting skills. Also, you should understand that there are plenty of other people in the world who are on the same maturity level as you and will be much better friends for you.
i would distance myself, she sounds very immature..you don't decide to have children because all your friends are. Your friends will not be there raising the child for the next 18 plus yrs. If i thought there was a chance i would want to divorce my husband the last thing i would do would try to get pregnant! If i was you i would just go on with your life, if she calls be friendly but you don't have to agree to hang out and if she asks about why you are diffrently, be honest and tell her you think she is wrong..you need to be around people who have a good infulence on your life and she is not having a good infulence! So hang out with postive couples, don't let her drag you down !! Good Luck!
I would move on from that friendship.
You can see the tracks are missing, so why are you waiting around for the train to derail? Get away before she drags you into that impending wreck with her - you've got your own family to think about and deal with.
yes it's time for you to cut your ties. my friend Stacey is the same way. I'm pregnant with my second daughter due april 23rd and she all the sudden became pregnant and is due april 18th. she pisses me off so i told her that i wish her all the luck in the world but i needed to focus on my babies. she got mad and said that it was because of my fiance that i was acting this way because him and her have never gotten along which is not the case so i told her that she was just obnoxious and that i wanted my space. i don't suggest you end it this way but you gotta be honest.
Always choose your friends based on their character. Not just because their nice or fun or if you've been friends forever.
If shes not a good person in your eyes.. distance yourself.
She sounds very destructive, to herself her baby and you don't need that stress.
Surround yourself with good positive friends.
Most of us have crazy family to deal with we don't need to pick friends like that too!
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Good Luck with your baby!
The best thing you can do is stay out of her life. She is a grown woman and can make her own decesions. You dont need to strees yourself out now that you are pregnant. You have been a friend for her and have done all you can. She has to learn on her own. The best way to stand is to fall on your face first and that is whats going to happen to her.
when the baby is born she wont want to party. she needs marriage counseling. any marriage can be saved if both sides are willing to get help. dont distance your self from her she is gonna need support through all of this changes be there for her no matter what
if you feel its the right time to move on then do so. keeping a friendship that you don't want will just cause more stress to you and right now you dont need that. hopefully she will learn once she has the baby what being a mother is all about. good luck to you.
I agree. I would definitely distance myself from her and feel sorry for her. I wouldn't completely end the friendship, she has issues and is very lucky to have a friend like you.
doesnt sound like a good healthy friendship. She make wrong decisions. I would distance myself from her.
I feel sorry for the baby that she's bringing into the world. What a mess! Definitely drop them from your friendship list and go with your husband's POV.....they're not worth the drama and stress. Sounds like you've matured and she hasn't. Bring people into your life who are positive, nuturing, and hold values the same as you.
distance yourself, but let her know if she needs help or advice you will be there as a friend.mortgage rate interest rate
She is 24 and found out me and her other good friend are pregnant. She was very jealous and said she wanted a baby too. So she purposely got pregnant even though her marriage is rocky at best.
I am so frustrated with her and her selfish actions. I almost want to cut her off! She causes so many problems in her own life by being an immature brat and it stresses me out to hear about it all of the time.
Should I just distance myself from her? She told me she plans to take her baby with her to house parties and bars so they can drink with their friends.
I just don鈥檛 agree with her lifestyle or parenting skills. My husband refuses to hang out with them because of all their problems and fighting.
Is it time for me to move on from the friendship?How do I deal with my friend, she got pregnant on purpose because of her friends and is selfish and immature?
I'd say it's time for you to move onHow do I deal with my friend, she got pregnant on purpose because of her friends and is selfish and immature?
Who gives a toss about god - this is why America are so brainwashed nowadays. God dont fu c k i ng exist!
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don't put yourself through that stress. shes a bit rediculous, and there is no reason to stay friends or even aquantinces w/ someone if they are going to act childish.
You already know the answer to your question.
But if you are still not sure, ask yourself this, Do I want to hang around with a shallow person?
I feel so sorry for your friends baby, what a nightmare.
Just start being unavailable and eventually she will move on. You don't have to actually tell her you are not friends anymore, just don't call her and meet with her.
If she calls don't answer the phone and don't return messages.
If you want to give her sound advice tell her that marriage takes alot of work on the part of both people and having a baby is a huge responsibility, there will be no partying, me time or anything of the sort - life as you know it dies when you have a child - and you are reborn as a new person, at the birth you become a Mom.
tell her to go to counseling. get rid of her as a friend. she is not a good friend for anyone in life, she is psycho at best. only desperate disgusting people do that and to affect her unborn child is what is the worst part. counseling is good for her, although I don't think anyone will change the way she is. move on
I would because she will just end up bring you and your family down with her. Pray for that poor baby that before its born, she will grow up some and give the baby a chance at a good life. Good luck and congrats on your baby.
Ask yourself this very important question: Will you be losing anything crucial to your survival if you cut ties? Or will you be gaining your own self-respect and happiness back? Some people cannot and will not change. If you choose to be her friend through all her careless ways, are you ready to lose yourself in the bargain? Perhaps the only way you can be a good friend in this situation is to not be her friend, so that she understands you are against her immaturity and possibly dangerous and negligent parenting skills. Also, you should understand that there are plenty of other people in the world who are on the same maturity level as you and will be much better friends for you.
i would distance myself, she sounds very immature..you don't decide to have children because all your friends are. Your friends will not be there raising the child for the next 18 plus yrs. If i thought there was a chance i would want to divorce my husband the last thing i would do would try to get pregnant! If i was you i would just go on with your life, if she calls be friendly but you don't have to agree to hang out and if she asks about why you are diffrently, be honest and tell her you think she is wrong..you need to be around people who have a good infulence on your life and she is not having a good infulence! So hang out with postive couples, don't let her drag you down !! Good Luck!
I would move on from that friendship.
You can see the tracks are missing, so why are you waiting around for the train to derail? Get away before she drags you into that impending wreck with her - you've got your own family to think about and deal with.
yes it's time for you to cut your ties. my friend Stacey is the same way. I'm pregnant with my second daughter due april 23rd and she all the sudden became pregnant and is due april 18th. she pisses me off so i told her that i wish her all the luck in the world but i needed to focus on my babies. she got mad and said that it was because of my fiance that i was acting this way because him and her have never gotten along which is not the case so i told her that she was just obnoxious and that i wanted my space. i don't suggest you end it this way but you gotta be honest.
Always choose your friends based on their character. Not just because their nice or fun or if you've been friends forever.
If shes not a good person in your eyes.. distance yourself.
She sounds very destructive, to herself her baby and you don't need that stress.
Surround yourself with good positive friends.
Most of us have crazy family to deal with we don't need to pick friends like that too!
HAHA
Good Luck with your baby!
The best thing you can do is stay out of her life. She is a grown woman and can make her own decesions. You dont need to strees yourself out now that you are pregnant. You have been a friend for her and have done all you can. She has to learn on her own. The best way to stand is to fall on your face first and that is whats going to happen to her.
when the baby is born she wont want to party. she needs marriage counseling. any marriage can be saved if both sides are willing to get help. dont distance your self from her she is gonna need support through all of this changes be there for her no matter what
if you feel its the right time to move on then do so. keeping a friendship that you don't want will just cause more stress to you and right now you dont need that. hopefully she will learn once she has the baby what being a mother is all about. good luck to you.
I agree. I would definitely distance myself from her and feel sorry for her. I wouldn't completely end the friendship, she has issues and is very lucky to have a friend like you.
doesnt sound like a good healthy friendship. She make wrong decisions. I would distance myself from her.
I feel sorry for the baby that she's bringing into the world. What a mess! Definitely drop them from your friendship list and go with your husband's POV.....they're not worth the drama and stress. Sounds like you've matured and she hasn't. Bring people into your life who are positive, nuturing, and hold values the same as you.
distance yourself, but let her know if she needs help or advice you will be there as a friend.
How do you deal with change friends?
Idk. Im starting to see my friends changing on me from left to right. Either it's because they're dating someone or just randomly ignoring me. It's weird because I've been through this so many times, yet why does it still make me sad at the end?How do you deal with change friends?
I guess they mean to you more than you mean to them, they shouldn't put relationships before friends... If your friend isn't there for you when they're in a relationship, they're not true friends. I hate when people ignore me, but I deal with it sometimes. I just go make new and better friends who will actually treat me like a friend instead of treating me like crap. Don't bury yourself in dirt, and don't let yourself be treated like dirt. Go make new friends, and if your ';friend'; actually cared, he/she will go back to you and apologize, AND mean it.
I guess they mean to you more than you mean to them, they shouldn't put relationships before friends... If your friend isn't there for you when they're in a relationship, they're not true friends. I hate when people ignore me, but I deal with it sometimes. I just go make new and better friends who will actually treat me like a friend instead of treating me like crap. Don't bury yourself in dirt, and don't let yourself be treated like dirt. Go make new friends, and if your ';friend'; actually cared, he/she will go back to you and apologize, AND mean it.
How do I deal with my creepy, inappropriate, married neighbor?
I went to a BBQ at my neighbor's house Friday night. Him and his wife were there, some of her friends, and his friends from his unit (he's Army). Its the first time I've ever hung out with them...I figured it would be nice to get to know them since they live right behind my husband and I. I had a great time talking with the other Army wives about how much it sucks that our husbands are deployed (mine is in Iraq). My daughter ran around with the other kids and wore herself out. The people we great, the food was amazing, and my daughter and I came home exhausted. Well, my neighbor showed up at my door about ten minutes after I got home. I figured he came by because I forgot something...I didn't...but I talked to him for a little bit. It was about 11pm and he made comments that I felt were inappropriate. He told me that he could see in my windows, then asked which ones looked into my bedroom (I never keep those curtains open thank God!), asked if he could come by later that night, when I told him no he said he'd call me up and we could hang out the Saturday while his wife is working (I avoided him), and then he asked for a hug before he left (I said no). He called me yesterday and he called twice today...I didn't answer. I've gotten hit on before and had no problem telling those guys ';I'm married'; and ';no';, but my neighbor just creeps me out and I haven't gotten the guts to face him to tell him to back off. I had a friend come hang out with me all day because I was afraid to be home alone. He knows my husband is in Iraq, which makes me even more freaked out. I don't know what do to. He scares me. You have no idea how happy I am that I just had a security system installed in our house. Can I get a no contact order or restraining order? If so, don't I need proof of some kind? We own our home, so just up and moving isn't really an optoin, so how do I deal with living next to him?How do I deal with my creepy, inappropriate, married neighbor?
Sounds like a stalker.How do I deal with my creepy, inappropriate, married neighbor?
where I come from we are gun owners. Talk about how you want the chance to shoot pervs in the nuts.
I wouldn't normally advocate this, but in this case, I'd tell his wife. Try to cry and show some fear when you speak with her. Tell her you are totally uncomfortable with his attention and felt she should know. If that isn't effective, you could tell his commander.
He does sound creepy and sometimes being direct to the point of being rude is the answer. Some guys just don't get the message easily. I understand that you would feel a little tentative as they are your neighbors and you have only just started to get to know them but I would be forceful in letting him know how you feel. Something along the lines of ';I am not interesting in ';hanging out'; with you or being alone with you at all. Leave me alone. Don't come here again, you are creeping me out!'; If he doesn't get the message, go to his wife and tell her that you were concerned that her husband wanted to hang out with you while she wasn't there and you felt she should know. If he persists you may have no option other than to call the police and let them know that he refuses to leave you alone, that your husband is in Iraq and tell them the types of things he is saying about you windows and that should be enough for them to at least talk to him about his behavior.
Best of luck.
I would try and talk with his wife..... She might not believe it at first so maybe you can talk with her while he is there and make a joke about it like, 'ha, I can't believe you husband--- he's always checking up on me...... and then continue on about it.. You may want to say, you don't have to come over so late because (child) is sleeping and I have the alarm on...
If you don't say something and leave it alone he could become more turned on... That is creepy though.. good luck to you and I hope hubby comes home soon.
Sounds like a stalker.How do I deal with my creepy, inappropriate, married neighbor?
where I come from we are gun owners. Talk about how you want the chance to shoot pervs in the nuts.
I wouldn't normally advocate this, but in this case, I'd tell his wife. Try to cry and show some fear when you speak with her. Tell her you are totally uncomfortable with his attention and felt she should know. If that isn't effective, you could tell his commander.
He does sound creepy and sometimes being direct to the point of being rude is the answer. Some guys just don't get the message easily. I understand that you would feel a little tentative as they are your neighbors and you have only just started to get to know them but I would be forceful in letting him know how you feel. Something along the lines of ';I am not interesting in ';hanging out'; with you or being alone with you at all. Leave me alone. Don't come here again, you are creeping me out!'; If he doesn't get the message, go to his wife and tell her that you were concerned that her husband wanted to hang out with you while she wasn't there and you felt she should know. If he persists you may have no option other than to call the police and let them know that he refuses to leave you alone, that your husband is in Iraq and tell them the types of things he is saying about you windows and that should be enough for them to at least talk to him about his behavior.
Best of luck.
I would try and talk with his wife..... She might not believe it at first so maybe you can talk with her while he is there and make a joke about it like, 'ha, I can't believe you husband--- he's always checking up on me...... and then continue on about it.. You may want to say, you don't have to come over so late because (child) is sleeping and I have the alarm on...
If you don't say something and leave it alone he could become more turned on... That is creepy though.. good luck to you and I hope hubby comes home soon.
How do you deal with depressed friends without losing it yourself?
I have a very depressed friend, whom I've been friends with for a long time. Lately though he is completly unreliable (says he'll call doesn't, stands me up, doesn't do what he says he will do ect.). All he has to say lately is negative and whiney. I want to be there for him....and for the last year I have put up with all of it and tried to be the best friend I could handle being. but I find myself very angry and resentful towards him. I avoid him because I don't like being around him...then I feel guilty as hell about it and feel I'm not being a friend, but I feel he's not my friend, he's a self centered whiney taker all the time. I know he needs professional help, but he can't/won't. How can I help him without going insane!How do you deal with depressed friends without losing it yourself?
Dealing with a depressed friend is never easy. I know all about it. My best friend in the whole world has suffered with deep depression since her car accident last August. It is difficult sometimes to find the right words to say to her. I keep telling her to look at her positives and don't focus so much on her negatives, perhaps this will help your friend.
You may want to approach him to do some investigative work to pinpoint for his ownself what person(s) or thing(s) make him feel depressed about. Then after he does this, ask him if there is anything he could change to correct the problems. If he says ';no there isn't'; then ask him to make a list of all of his good points and acknowledge all his accomplishments in life. See if you can focus on the good and positive things in his life as opposed to his negative things.
Always encourage your friend as best as you can. Be willing to listen to him and be as positive as you can not only with him but with yourself.
Let him know that you care very deeply for him and let him know that you will support him with all of his decisions.
Every once in awhile, mention to him about therapy and seeing a doctor about his depression. Medications and therapy go hand in hand.
Good luck to you and your friend! I hope he feels better soon!How do you deal with depressed friends without losing it yourself?
I apologise in advance if this sounds harsh. You first need to ask yourself a very important question. Then decide for yourself, from experience with the person, and take action on it. The question is: ';Does this person WANT to be helped? Or are they just looking for someone to turn to, lean on, depend on.'; (Take advantage of, use) The cold, hard, truth is that if they are REALLY WANTIING helped, they will take your advice to seek professional help, no matter how hard it might be to do. They will also recognise that they are bringing you down with them. You should think also about what you are doing to yourself and them. Is your continued effort to be there enabling them to stay in denial of their need for professional help? What are you doing to yourself as a result? Why should you feel guilty for saying enough?
You'll burn out. Get out of the picture, because you can't help.
Seek for professional help.
Some depressed people attract negative dieties to them in the long run. Their complexion will be dark and grey. They will stay in darkness, inside a house with no sunlight. Is that the case with him?
I HAD A FRIEND WHO SUFFERS FROM DEPRESION AND BOY O BOY THEY WERE BRINGING ME DOWN , EVERYTIME THEY CAME ROUND IT WAS DOOM AND GLOOM AND IT STARTED MAKING ME ILL , I KNEW THIS PERSON DIDNT LIKE DOGS SO I GOT MYSELF A WEST ISLAND WHITE PUPPY , HAVE NOT SEEN THEM SINCE , DO YOURSELF A FAVOUR ,
MOVE
Leaving is usually easier said than done when you care about someone...when he doesn't call, don't call...if he stands you up don't go calling and contacting...cause (unless he's suicidal) he is probably loving the attention you are giving him...whether he admits it or not, which doesn't motivate the need for change. Use a lil reverse psychology...Let him call you after a long time of you not contacting him...if he asks why you haven't been in contact...then you tell him as tactful as you can that you feel like it's a one sided friendship cause you are willing to be there for him but he's forgetting that you need a friend too. If he continues the same way...then you are gonna have to back off cause he will burn you out...Poor Me's always end up alienating their friends and fam.
This is one of the most difficult questions to answer! Your friend may not be thinking correctly, he may be confused and can't remember what or when he is supposed to do something. Depression is a major issue in the world today. Check out http://www.nami.org/ they are a national organization that deals with mental illness. Most larger cities has an affiliate for information about services in your area. The most important thing is ';DON'T GIVE UP';, it could cost your friend his life. NAMI will give you and him help.
Good luck!
Heather d
Dealing with a depressed friend is never easy. I know all about it. My best friend in the whole world has suffered with deep depression since her car accident last August. It is difficult sometimes to find the right words to say to her. I keep telling her to look at her positives and don't focus so much on her negatives, perhaps this will help your friend.
You may want to approach him to do some investigative work to pinpoint for his ownself what person(s) or thing(s) make him feel depressed about. Then after he does this, ask him if there is anything he could change to correct the problems. If he says ';no there isn't'; then ask him to make a list of all of his good points and acknowledge all his accomplishments in life. See if you can focus on the good and positive things in his life as opposed to his negative things.
Always encourage your friend as best as you can. Be willing to listen to him and be as positive as you can not only with him but with yourself.
Let him know that you care very deeply for him and let him know that you will support him with all of his decisions.
Every once in awhile, mention to him about therapy and seeing a doctor about his depression. Medications and therapy go hand in hand.
Good luck to you and your friend! I hope he feels better soon!How do you deal with depressed friends without losing it yourself?
I apologise in advance if this sounds harsh. You first need to ask yourself a very important question. Then decide for yourself, from experience with the person, and take action on it. The question is: ';Does this person WANT to be helped? Or are they just looking for someone to turn to, lean on, depend on.'; (Take advantage of, use) The cold, hard, truth is that if they are REALLY WANTIING helped, they will take your advice to seek professional help, no matter how hard it might be to do. They will also recognise that they are bringing you down with them. You should think also about what you are doing to yourself and them. Is your continued effort to be there enabling them to stay in denial of their need for professional help? What are you doing to yourself as a result? Why should you feel guilty for saying enough?
You'll burn out. Get out of the picture, because you can't help.
Seek for professional help.
Some depressed people attract negative dieties to them in the long run. Their complexion will be dark and grey. They will stay in darkness, inside a house with no sunlight. Is that the case with him?
I HAD A FRIEND WHO SUFFERS FROM DEPRESION AND BOY O BOY THEY WERE BRINGING ME DOWN , EVERYTIME THEY CAME ROUND IT WAS DOOM AND GLOOM AND IT STARTED MAKING ME ILL , I KNEW THIS PERSON DIDNT LIKE DOGS SO I GOT MYSELF A WEST ISLAND WHITE PUPPY , HAVE NOT SEEN THEM SINCE , DO YOURSELF A FAVOUR ,
MOVE
Leaving is usually easier said than done when you care about someone...when he doesn't call, don't call...if he stands you up don't go calling and contacting...cause (unless he's suicidal) he is probably loving the attention you are giving him...whether he admits it or not, which doesn't motivate the need for change. Use a lil reverse psychology...Let him call you after a long time of you not contacting him...if he asks why you haven't been in contact...then you tell him as tactful as you can that you feel like it's a one sided friendship cause you are willing to be there for him but he's forgetting that you need a friend too. If he continues the same way...then you are gonna have to back off cause he will burn you out...Poor Me's always end up alienating their friends and fam.
This is one of the most difficult questions to answer! Your friend may not be thinking correctly, he may be confused and can't remember what or when he is supposed to do something. Depression is a major issue in the world today. Check out http://www.nami.org/ they are a national organization that deals with mental illness. Most larger cities has an affiliate for information about services in your area. The most important thing is ';DON'T GIVE UP';, it could cost your friend his life. NAMI will give you and him help.
Good luck!
Heather d
How do I deal with friends who don't respect me?
I've always been good with my hands, building all types of things. My buddies have always been supportive and appreciative of what I can do. But lately they've all be getting new toys and equipment of their own. All of their new gifts kinda make my past projects look a bit stale. So now they all seem to make of fun of me and my talents, calling me weak and such. Of course when I'm not up to helping one of them build that THEY want to build, I get to hear about it. One of the guys from Boston is a real pain about it, always yelling at the top of his lungs about needing this and that. So how can I deal with ';friends'; like these? It almost feels like they just want to stab me in the back.How do I deal with friends who don't respect me?
It sounds like there's been some jealousy towards you. It also sounds like your friends are competitive. It's bad enough you're no longer at the top but they want to kick you while your down. It just goes to show how jealous of you they were when you were on top. You'll come back again, don't let it get to you. Your friends suffer bad sportsmenship and don't know how to ';win'; gracefully.
As for the friend from Boston-just explain to him that he doesn't have to yell when he needs something. Tell him if he needs your help to just come over and talk to you about it.
Just roll with the punches otherwise and try not to let it get to you. Be a good sportman and compliment them when they do something well and admire their new toys. I believe giving respect is the best way to earn respect.How do I deal with friends who don't respect me?
Have you had a talk with them, one on one and voiced your concern about this? I would do so and let them know that their treatment of you is hurtful. If they don't change their ways towards you, then they were never really ';friends'; in the first place.
If these ';friends' of yours are suddenly disrespecting you and stabbing you in the back, then maybe you should reconsider them being your friends at all. If they start showing off their new gadgets and such tell them ';congratulations';, smile, and get back to your own work. perhaps after a while they'll get bored of their stupid egos and go back to being respectful humans. But for now I suggest you keep your distance and let their huge heads lose a little air and deflate a little. the last thing you want to do is encourage them by acting jealous or showing a rel interest in what they're doing. If you're so ';weak'; as they say, perhaps they should find someone their own level to hang around with. Good luck.
It sounds like there's been some jealousy towards you. It also sounds like your friends are competitive. It's bad enough you're no longer at the top but they want to kick you while your down. It just goes to show how jealous of you they were when you were on top. You'll come back again, don't let it get to you. Your friends suffer bad sportsmenship and don't know how to ';win'; gracefully.
As for the friend from Boston-just explain to him that he doesn't have to yell when he needs something. Tell him if he needs your help to just come over and talk to you about it.
Just roll with the punches otherwise and try not to let it get to you. Be a good sportman and compliment them when they do something well and admire their new toys. I believe giving respect is the best way to earn respect.How do I deal with friends who don't respect me?
Have you had a talk with them, one on one and voiced your concern about this? I would do so and let them know that their treatment of you is hurtful. If they don't change their ways towards you, then they were never really ';friends'; in the first place.
If these ';friends' of yours are suddenly disrespecting you and stabbing you in the back, then maybe you should reconsider them being your friends at all. If they start showing off their new gadgets and such tell them ';congratulations';, smile, and get back to your own work. perhaps after a while they'll get bored of their stupid egos and go back to being respectful humans. But for now I suggest you keep your distance and let their huge heads lose a little air and deflate a little. the last thing you want to do is encourage them by acting jealous or showing a rel interest in what they're doing. If you're so ';weak'; as they say, perhaps they should find someone their own level to hang around with. Good luck.
How do you deal with friends who drink?
I have two good friends who are smart, nice people but they've just made (what I think is) a stupid mistake. They've both started drinking...and they like it and don't regret getting drunk at all. They say their hangovers were bearable and that they want to do it again, and try drugs to just for that 'high' feeling. I've told them it's stupid, but they just don't regret it. They're planning to get drunk again soon, and I just don't think I can deal with their craziness! They're good kids, so good that I think that they're trying to 'rebel' or whatever...so how should I talk them out of it?How do you deal with friends who drink?
the more you talk the more they will do it their only trying out new things its natural to experiment when young just keep an eye on them and watch they dont get out of hand if your really worried seek advice from an adult you can trustHow do you deal with friends who drink?
the best thing to do is not try and talk them out of it. they have to learn on their own that things that are fun at first can have dangerous consequences.
if you try and tell them that they shoudnt do what they are doing they are likely to rebel against you.
try and be there for them, but distance yourself when you cant handle the drunkenness.
set limits on your time with them and take care of you...
Try talking to their parents or like your parents to talk to their parents... maybe at first they would be mad... then they willl think that you did them a HUGE favour!!
HOPE YOU TAKE MY ADVICE!!
Tell them if they want to drink, you wish they wouldn't, but you aren't going to start and go get some other friends to hang with-Boozers are losers
the more you talk the more they will do it their only trying out new things its natural to experiment when young just keep an eye on them and watch they dont get out of hand if your really worried seek advice from an adult you can trustHow do you deal with friends who drink?
the best thing to do is not try and talk them out of it. they have to learn on their own that things that are fun at first can have dangerous consequences.
if you try and tell them that they shoudnt do what they are doing they are likely to rebel against you.
try and be there for them, but distance yourself when you cant handle the drunkenness.
set limits on your time with them and take care of you...
Try talking to their parents or like your parents to talk to their parents... maybe at first they would be mad... then they willl think that you did them a HUGE favour!!
HOPE YOU TAKE MY ADVICE!!
Tell them if they want to drink, you wish they wouldn't, but you aren't going to start and go get some other friends to hang with-Boozers are losers
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