How do you deal with friends who are generally good but can be unreliable?

Ive had friends in the past who although in general have the qualities a good friend should have as in caring, kind, trustworthy etc. When it comes to social things they can be unreliable ie the will bail at the last minute and sometimes come up with reasons that seem a bit lame.





I find these type of friends difficult to deal with as they are generally good friends but their unreliability annoys me. How do you or would you deal with this type of friend?How do you deal with friends who are generally good but can be unreliable?
Ha yeah I've been in the same situation plenty of times, in the end, I just gave up with them, all this promise of meeting up, and it never happened all cos they make up some lame excuse.How do you deal with friends who are generally good but can be unreliable?
I have a cousin that is like this. Every time I invite him to hang out with all the friends, he will say yeah and then when its time he will lag it on us. So then I just started telling him, that a bunch of us are going to get together if you want to come just call me. That way you he will call you and if he doesn't then he is not coming. There is really nothing you can do to make them change, so just try that.
Make some other friends who enjoy social outings and hang out with them. You can still hang with your other friends, but you don't have to let your social life suffer because they don't want to go out. Some people are just like that. I have some friends just like that and don't really want to go out and be social, but I have another group of friends that will gladly go see a movie or something.
I've got such kind of friends too.


They are friends worth making friends with, for they are caring, kind and trustworthy.


But they sometimes hurt me with their unreliability.


In this case, I will choose not to deal with social things all by myself or with other reliable friends for safe, instead of relying on those unreliable friends.


But I will still keep friendly with them in daily life as if nothing happens.


I think its kind of protecting ourselves from being hurt, and save our friendship as well.
Lol most of my friends fall into this category (who knows it could be most people period)





Learn to accept it, their unreliability is part of what makes them and as they are good people and friends then you should be able to look past this one fault (after all everyone has faults).





I just usually plan things but expect them to fall through; or find the reasons why they fall through and try to prevent it (for me that means me organising everything).





Try not to get wound up about it, the important things they'll turn up for.