A friend whom I invited once to my beach house now wants to visit, this time with her kids, her new partner, the maid, and the driver. My house is quite big and can accommodate them, but I feel something is wrong somewhere.How do you deal with friends who seem to take advantage of your generosity?
there are people like that ive felt abused.
it's proper to tell them (in the right time) especially when you don't want it. there are always options present. others may resent but most will appreciate it the gestureHow do you deal with friends who seem to take advantage of your generosity?
You mean to stay over for a few days or to visit for a few hours?
Friends are friends because we welcome them into parts of our life. If you feel she is crossing a line just politely tell her that you're not really up to having a lot of people over for an overnight visit.
I'd tell them that you'll be unable to entertain them during the specified time period, or in the neat future, depending if they have a date in mind.
If they no particular date, you could be gently blunt and tell her that you'd rather not have that many guests at once, and suggest a local hotel that may work well for them.
It's not a pleasant situation, but it should be dealt with.
That really doesn't seem like someone that is ';taking advantage'; of your generosity as you say so. Friends allow others to stay over for a 'sleep over' type of thing every once in a while. If she wants to do this, say, four times a week, then I would think that she was taking advantage of you.
Just tell them that you're not available at this time.
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