How do you deal with friends who tend to put themselves down, just so others around them will compliment them?

we all have those type of friends





at what point do you feel it just gets old..How do you deal with friends who tend to put themselves down, just so others around them will compliment them?
It does get annoying after a while. I used to work in a restaurant years ago and had a co-worker like that. This girl was super skinny, like 5'2, 95 pounds skinny. She used to always have have the cook make her steaks or really fattening foods at break time and she'd complain while she was eating them that she was soooo fat and needs to lose weight. (She only did this because she wanted to hear everyone tell her that she's skinny all the time)...one day, it got extremely annoying and when she said that, instead of saying ';whatever girl, you're so skinny- you can eat whatever you want'; I said ';You know what Georgia? If you really want to lose weight then you should stop eating all that fattening food all the time';. I really can't remember her complaining to me anymore about how ';fat'; she was...How do you deal with friends who tend to put themselves down, just so others around them will compliment them?
They need help if they behave like that. Depending on how good of a friend they are to me, I would either suggest they go to counseling to get over their low self-esteem or just ignore the comment and change the subject. It's not nice but neither is expecting someone else to make you feel good about yourself.
yes, we do all dont we.....


i am a very outspoken person so i just tell them..


in a ...nice as i can be way............


it takes away from other people if you dont say something.....


just make lil comments here - n - there....


best of luck....
I get like that about myself..I drive people nutz. I don't realise I do it. Its because I am always alone and never hear anything good about myself.
The best thing to do is come right out and tell them ';this is getting old and when you start belittling yourself I am going to walk away';.(or hang up) Then do it.
I just yawn and ignore them or change the subject. It's pretty unbecoming behaviour for an adult frankly.





But there are those who do it as one person above said, because they are lonely and just want some attention. I try to be honest and frank with someone like that and help them build their self esteem, but if after a while I find they really don't want to change I just move on. These shoulders are getting old and you don't want to hang out with drippy people all the time or someone who wants to remain stuck in the past and crying. They just get you down and life does a good enough job of that, that you don't need others adding to it.
Refuse to play their game. When they put them self down, just look at them and say, ';That's too bad.'; or something like that. When you don't play, they eventually will stop the behavior, at least around you, because they are not getting what the want.